dd hates other people, my friend blames me, is this my fault?

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Sounds like your LO has good taste as far as your friend is concerned.....

Don't most babies go through a clingy phase? Both mine did.

A lot of babies go through a strange phase. has she been like this long?

If she get upset when someone holds her I would take her back, comfort her and let her settle.

Some babies just prefer to be with their main carers, it is not anything you are doing wrong, it is just how she is.

What does your friend suggest? Letting her scream in terror? She trusts you and her Dad, why break that trust just so someone else gets to hold he?

Wouldnt worry, I was a fairly possessive mum () and my Dcs had short clingy phases, nothing extreme though, think many babies are like that too. Don't worry!

Is your dd walking? I found ds much less clingy once he could walk. I guess he felt more secure once he had control over where he was. But agree with the others, the clingy stage is a normal phase. DS still gets clingy when he's ill or tired, and he's been going to childminders for 6 months so is used to lots of different faces.

My DD was like this at one, just had her second birthday and I remember the first one I had to hold and carry her the whole time. By the time of her second birthday she was playing with her cousins and I think would have been quite happy not seeing me the whole party! She is now outgoing and socialable. I too felt guilty as I didn't have lots of baby friends and have not left her with many people.

It is good thing that she sees you as the main carer. Don't force her on people she will grow out of it and the strong bond to you will make her more sociable and balanced in the future.

I take it your friend either doesn't have kids or has the good fortune to have uberconfident, devil may care ones...

Almost all kids go through a clingy stage at about 1, its called separation anxiety. They are suddenly learning their place in the world as a separate entity from mum/dad. Best thing to do is be there, take her back, cuddle and reassure her and tell the adult not to take it personally

sounds like separation anxiety and absolutely classic in that age baby/child. DS was pretty awful from 14-16 months with it. Combines with teething, not a happy chappy, but perfectly normal. I think the perceived wisdom is to go with the flow - give your DD the reassurance she needs, let her be clingy to you, and when she's ready she'll move on from that. DS certainly did, he now seems to have well and truly lost his inbuilt "where is my parent?" radar and happily wanders off with not a backward glance as to where we are.

NOT YOUR FAULT! Every baby is different but most (if not all) go through some form of clinginess and stranger anxiety. My ds is 15 months and although he doesn't scream if other people touch him anymore (he used to!), he still doesn't really smile at people he doesn't know, he just lookes suspiciously at them and sort of glares if they try and pick him up. He will go to them but would still rather be with me or dh, it's normal and people shouldn't rush her. She'll be totally different in a few months. x

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