Im so fed up of my boys behaviour, i cant DO anything about it...

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They are 2 & 3.

They treat me like shit, throw things at me and just laugh at me,

even at times when ive 'lost my temper' and really screeched at them they laugh!! I just end up crying.

Im 33 weeks pregnant and cant keep putting them on the naughty spot as they just get up... i have SPD and cant lift or drag them.

they just laugh at me constantly.

DS1 gets stickers constantly at playgroup for being goood, why is he a shit at home??

DS2 is just copying him,

i feel like im going to drown in this mess when DD1 is born

Not much advice and I really do feel for you. Have you tried reward charts for them?

I feel for you as I know how much hard work with just one 3 yr old boy can be(my ds). Do you have a partner/family that help out? I don't think there is an easy fix to your situation as both boys are at that age where they are hard work. You do need to be consistent though and I know this is exhausting when you're heavily pregnant. If they don't stay on the naughty spot, put them in their room instead with the door closed. I'm sure another mum will be along shortly who has more than 1 son and plenty of expererience. Take care.

Hiya

I really really feel for you, the dread of what life will be like when a new baby comes along can be awful. Your boys are probably sensing something new is coming along and are playing up accordingly, they are also acting like a pack who can sense weakness cos you can't physically restrain them.

I have one who is angelic at school and a little bugger at home and one who is the opposite! But mine fight more with each other than they do with me, which drives me equally bonkers.

Clearly the naughty step isn't working for you - do they have favourite toys? I often find taking these away has more effect than the naughty step. Also I think locking them in their rooms is a good idea. You need a little break to get your head together when they are kicking off - Steven Biddulph endorses this - although I usually sit outside the door.

Playing them off against each other might work too - ie whoever tidies up / stops crying / is quiet for five minutes by the clock gets a treat / sticker etc and praise praise like mad for any little bit of good behaviour. Alternatively I have found that screaming and shouting and having a complete and utter scary meltdown does shock them into good behaviour occasionally LOL Prob best not to do this near your due date!

They are a bit small but sitting down and writing family rules is a good idea and they might be more likely to stick to them if they write them. We have also had a big family reward chart where anyone gets a star on a black sky for good behaviour and then we all go out for treat. Anyone can give the stars and there are no names on it.

"Raising Boys: Why Boys are Different - And How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-balanced Men: " by Steven Biddulph is a good book if you feel you can face reading one.

Ultimately though you need a break - you've got a stressful time coming - is there anyone who will take them for a little while? I don't think there really are any answers apart from waiting till they leave home LOL - all you can do is try stuff and be kind to yourself - being pregnant is hard enough by itself.

Good luck I really hope it works out for you (SMILE)