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My dd just bit a chunk out of another childs face today - please help!!!!??

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Reesie · 04/11/2008 11:22

My dd is 22 months old and since about 16 months she started biting. She used to bite me, dh and other children. 6 months on she definately bites less, doesn't bite me anymore but will still try and lunge at dh. I've alsways been consistent in telling her off if she does it. I tell her really firmly "NO BITING" and drag her to the nearest corner where I repeat it and then I ignore her whilst I check on the other child. She stays still and always looks really sad about it - after a couple of mins I go and get her and she has to say sorry to the other child by giving them a kiss and giving them a particular toy that she is playing with at the time before the biting happened.

At the local toddler group I watch her like a hawk. But today she was too quick and after a quick scuffle with a little boy - she lunged at him and bit his face!!!!!! It was a really nasty bite and it drew blood.

Has anybody got any advice about how to try to manage it? Am I doing things ok? A couple of people have said to bite her back but I feel I want her to know that biting is completely unnacceptable and it's something or family wouldn't do.

My dh and I are so mellow so I don't know why she is so feisty. She'll happily initiate a scrap with an older child and usually wins. She can't be copying me and dh never argue (we just sulk at each other!) so she never hears even a raised voice at home.

Anbody had a similar experience - will this phase end and how did you manage it?

Help!

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LaTrucha · 04/11/2008 11:23

No idea but sympathy. I bit a chunk out of my brothers thgih when I was that age. I don't do it anymore, I promise.

lisad123 · 04/11/2008 11:26

oh dear poor you. I defo wouldnt say bite back, its an old fashion suggestion and doesnt work. I think what you are doing is right and it isn a stage a lot go though. My BF DD1 was the same, and took a huge bite at my DD1 when my dd was 6 months old. Was very upsetting but just one of those things. Hugs

kando · 04/11/2008 11:29

Reesie - you have my sympathies as dd3 was like this for a while, and also with pinching. You are doing everything right and it is a phase she will hopefully grow out of quickly.

ginnny · 04/11/2008 11:30

You have my sympathy. My ds1 was a biter too.
Fwiw I think you are doing the right thing, I was told that by ignoring the child that bit and making a huge fuss of the injured child that shames them into not doing it again.
I don't agree with biting them back either, I just couldn't ever bring myself to bite a child, for whatever reason, it's barbaric.

UpJacobscreek · 04/11/2008 11:32

Not sure what to suggest ,my dd was bitten twice on the face and it was upsetting ,but then my younger dd went through a phase of biting and it does make you feel awful.

Whatever you do don't bite her back apart from it sending the wrong signal out to her didn't a woman go to prison for biting her ds back [this was an extreme case though!].

Just keep saying no I'm sure its just a phase and she will soon grow out of it .

Reesie · 04/11/2008 14:50

Thanks for your replies - does anyone know roughly when this 'phase' ends. I'm hoping it will be better when she can speak so that she may understand a bit more....

I'm going to have to avoid toddler group for a little while...I really don't fancy another hanibal lector moment! I'm pg at the moment with number 2 so I hope dd gets over it soon - I don't want her trying to take chunks out of the new baby...

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