Toddlers pushing

[sazzerbear]

My 18 mo ds has started pushing other kids (most of his friends are girls so v embarassing), presumably this is common at this age? Any tips on how to get through this phase or will it pass?

It all depends how you decide to do this really, praising him when not pushing is a great way, and saying a firm no when he does and always pay attention to the other child to make sur that she is OK. Your DS might get the message that it's wrong and that he will get no attention if he pushes.

Thanks Blueberry - good tips!

At 3 I sat ds down and gave him a list of golden rules

no kicking
no hitting
no bouncing on the couch
no biting
no screaming

we kept it short so he could remember them

we told him that breaking any of these would result in time out and a sticker off his chart .. without warning.

we didnt think he would get it as he is soo young .. the hope was start it young and he will get it later.. but he got it right away. he stopped doing most of it straight away and if i screamed at dh.. ds was there to remind me thats against the rules mummy

good luck

I'll be keeping an eye on this thread, ds same age and also keeps pushing other kids. He's a giant for his age as well which makes it more worrying when he's pushing around a dainty 2 year old of either sex.

Thanks frasersmummy lol at ds telling rmummy off for screaming at daddy! Same here elikdee, he's really tall and looks far older than his years - nearly shoved his friend off the slide the other day! We have to be firm!!

Glad to see I'm not the only one with a pushing toddler, thought I was a really bad parent! I have been telling him everytime he pushes, not to and explaining why. I will try the naughty step but not to sure if he's a bit young at 17 months, what do you think?

hi my 2 and a half year old son has been pushing too and I watch him go upto and going near the child before he pushes by bumping into them feel totally distraught with this behaviour and feel as though I'm doing something wrong hes being doing this for about 5 months and when he is in playgroup I have to stay by his side so this doesnt happen feel really embarassed he is my youngest of 3 boys my other two are 21 years old and 19 years old and they never done this what am I doing wrong? and how can I stop this happening?

I have a great book I bought for dd1 it's a hard board book so can't be destroyed and comes with a star chat it's called Please and Thankyou and it's by DK books www.dk.com it deals with pushing and butting in and hitting, snatching saying sorry etc I found it fab!

Hi thanks cant find this book online

The isbn number is 978-1-40531-691-0