Just wondering what you all do if your dcs the same as mine
My dd is 3. Sometimes she is sociable, sometimes not - she is a bit unpredictable. She is not one of those children that you can label as being outgoing or introverted and I've yet to make up my mind which way she is heading. Sometimes she can be shy, sometimes she loves the attention. She dosn't mix well at playgroup - when I'm there, she wants me. But am told she is fine at nursery. She enjoys the company of my friends' children - 1 in particular, but I wouldn't say she has a real best friend yet. On the whole when she plays with these kids she is Ok - but she can be possessive of her things and throw a strop if the playmate has something she wants or does something she dosn't seem to like.
What worries me is that she will often tell both playmates and their mums (& sometimes family members too) to "Go away" or "I want you to go home now" . I find this soo embarassing and am not sure how I should react when she says these things. I generally say something along the lines of "That's not a very nice thing to say, so and so will go home when they are ready, not when you say." and then get her to apologise. It really gets to me -it's totally stupid as how can you take offence at a 3 yr old, but I really feel for the person she's directed the comment to - it's almost like an irrational part of me would be upset if she said that to me.
How would you deal with this. Is she anti-social, should she have a best friend by now? Maybe she's shy and when she's had enough of people she wants them to go - I was painfully shy as a child. How can I deal with this? Thanks. (Sorry it's a bit long)!