Discipline for 2 year old - naughty step???

[emmywoo]

My dd of just 2 is as good as gold for everyone else apart from me nad dh. She hits me, screams and throws tantrums if she doesn't get what she wants, throws things etc, probably very normal for her age. However, I have been recommended so many ways of discipling her I am now really confused. If she is naughty, does anyone recommend giving her a warning and if she continues to put her on the naughty step. Please help as getting to end of my teather with her behaviour.

This is v helpful for me as my DD (nearly two) is also starting to kick off big time and I'm in complete confusion with different parenting advice.

Her latest thing is to scream and misbehave whenever we all sit down to eat a meal (we generally eat our evening meal together early evening and up til now this has worked well). Now she screams and starts trying to climb all over the room whenever we sit down, and wants to sit on my lap (and breastfeed!) throughout.

It really needs sorting out and my mum says shove her in the hall (the only safeish place for her to be without us apart from her bedroom) until she stops screaming. I think this might work, but seems quite cruel for a two year old! Games (e.g feeding the teddy) work for a bit but then she gets bored and starts throwing food. Distraction works on most other occasions but not this one.

Anyone got any other top tips before we end up on supernanny??

I agree with Iloveautumn and do the same or remove the offedning item. naughty steps didn't work for us, even though i am frowned at, by friends for not having one. The nursery teacher said that children are often not able to fully understand why they have been placed there.

i really struggle with naughty step. and neither of my dc get the concept. the younger one just stand in corner and sings.

hv also told me there were studdies they were doing about this just now and it's been to show that the naughty step is actually a bad thing mentally for some dc.

in my house the aim of the game is distraction. and outside it's distraction too.

at supermarket i pass the things to dc to throw into trolley.

feeding time at zoo i let lo's stand on chair and watch from a distance.

ds is slowly beginning to understand threats. if he doesn't want to do anything he get threatened with a) going to his room
b)not doing something he is looking forward to

occasionally when he does something really really bad like hurting his ds or breaking something he get put into his room. i shut the gate and walk away. coming back once the tantrum subsides for an apology and kiss.

and for bed times we tell him what we're going to do when he wakes up. he's out like a light to get to do his fun things. but beware. dont say your going to do something you've no intention of. as they do remember the next day when they wake. mind you. my ds is delighted if i even say we're going for a walk.

Great thread, mostly because I agree with all the advice!

Just wanted to add:
One thing that works well for us is to understand which situations make her play up.
The classic is when she is tired, of course.
Another one is when she has been indoors for too long.

Once you become aware of the settings that trigger bad behaviour
the obvious solution is to tackle the situation, the behaviour will follow.