dd 16 months pushes other toddlers around and snatches, what can i do? help!!

[gingertabby]

any advice?

Sounds fairly normal to me! Just keep on telling them they eventually get the message.

Fairly normal. You can only keep an eye on her when in company of other kids and make sure you intervene if you feel she is intimidating another kid. As much for the benefit of other toddlers' parents as for the other toddlers!!

she does it to older toddlers too, shes a right thug at times

it is so

Well, at least she is not a pushover. It is probably a stage though. One of DS's mates was always taking his toys and rugby-tackling him around that age. 18mths on and DS now holds his own and they play rough with each other and have a good laugh whilst they're about it.

id prefer her to be a pushover than a thug.

It's a thin line - you want them to respect other children & their property, but it can be hard to watch your kid be pushed around by others too. I wouldn't have encouraged my DS to retaliate with aggression to other children, but as soon as he was old enough to vocalise his unhappiness with a situation, I taught him to say "Stop that" or "no" firmly, and to get an adult to intervene. If my DS were to do anything to one of his friends that made them uncomfortable I would tell him off, but if they are fooling around, rolling about on the grass, then I'm happy with that now.

dd is 15 months and small and is the opposite, she gets pushed over and toys took away, she is just starting to hold on tighter or sometimes she shouts at them. TBH i expect the parent to intervene, come and tell off their child and give toy back or move them away but perhaps i am a bit ott as she is my pfb. if she snatches from a baby i take toy off her and give it back to baby and tell her she must share.