My 5 Month DS screams when I put him down - he wants to be held all the time

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Everyone says I have him spoilt and its my fault but he is my 3rd and my other two were not like this, if anything I had more time to hold them but my ds just wont sit in his chair. He cries so much I just don't know what to do other than carry him around to comfort him.

Please any tips?

No. I forgot say also if Im holding him and sit down he screams unil I stand up

That's just what I was going to say, hanaflower.

Makes me so cross when people talk about babies being spoilt. What, by loving them and cuddling them and doing what they want us to do, they're being ruined? Like when I picked up DD at 6 weeks old in a supermarket queue and the cashier cackled and told me I was spoiling her. gGrrrrrrrr... Rant over.

I can recommend the Beco Butterfly from naturalconnection.com

sling him. ds2 was like this from the get go and he spent moist of his time in the sling or just in my lap or whatever.
he is now they most independent 1 yr old I have ever known lol.

it isn't spoiling them to give them comfort when they need it. it's our job

My youngest ds was the same. Sling him in a sling.
He is also incredibly independant now.

Does he like the rhythm of walking?

The reaso I recommend the Beco is it's suitable from birth - 45lbs, v comfy and does front and back carries so you can stick them on your back when you need to get tea cooked safely without anyone screaming. Not super-cheap but v possible to blow money on carriers that aren't right for you. And Sarah at naturalconnection will let you try and return things.

Thank you so much - I feel like I am being criticised all the time for comforting him. I will look for one of these slings now.

Why do people think it's any of their business if you want to pick up your baby? (I've also had someone who I had just met pass comment on this to me). It really gets on my neffers! My dd is 24 wks and still goes in a Kari Me sling.

some babies just NEED to be held a lot. people said that I made ds2 clingy by having him in the sling all day.
I didn't. I had him in the sling all day because he was utterly bereft without close physical contact all the time. it was what he needed.

I used a moby sling, similar to the kari-me. lovely things

Oh my God, you have my son! Seriously, I could never ever sit down with him. Everyone said it was a sign of reflux as aparently it hurts them to sit and they need to be soothed by motin. Took him to the doctors, tried him on refux meds, no difference, even tried cranial osteopathy as it was reccommended on her when I started a thread asking why my 6 month old was so miserable all the time and why I had to walk with him litterally the whole time he was awake. It was nothing medical, he was just very very demanding and got bored very easily. He seemed to need constant holding and only ever stood up. He wouldn't go in a bouncer/ chair/ pram/ anything other than our arms.

Everyone, even my health visitor said I'd spoilt him and I should just leave him to cry. I tried it one afternoon and I don't recommend it! Babies like this do not give up and it was so so distressing for him and me and I never ever left him for more than a few minutes ever again.

Everything was a bettle with him. I couldn't take him anywhere as he constantly had to be in my arms so I couldn't drive anywhere. He even screamed in the car. Weaning was slow going as he hated his high chair and was so independant he didn't want to be fed, he wanted to feed himself from the start so i let him, it was messy but fun.

He was just very very very independant, which sounds ironic as he seemed so clingy and needy at the time. The second he got crawling and could do things for himself h mellowed slightly, needed hardly any holding and could play very well independantly. He still seemed quite frustrated though. He started walking just before his 1st birthday. He's 14 months now and finally he is a happy, contented, confident, (if a little strong willed!) little boy. Prone to the odd temper tantrum but he plays brilliantly and walks off to play at toddler groups. He is not clingy, not spoilt, he is fabulous.

Your little boy is still so young and needs you now but it won't be so awful for much longer although it does seem to last an eternity.

Ignore anyone who tells you you are spoiling him. Babies need comfort, especially babies like this! Sending you hugs though and truck loads of sympathy.

Wow that was a long post, I really do talk too much

sorry loads of typing errors on that! meant to say soothed by motion not motin and cranial osteopathy was recommended on here not her???? Oh and everything was a battle you get the picture though! Clearly I am ready for bed

babies need to be held - some more than others. I always picked up DD when she cried, and now she's 2, and generally sleeps through the night, but asks for cuddles and is very affectionate with her brother, who I also pick up when he cries...

slings are good as it keeps them close when have other things to do with hands!

Do you have a baby swing? It sooths my little one when i've got my hands full

Slings are great. If your baby can sit up, I'd higly recommend a ring sling. My daughter is now two and has lived in her ring sling for pretty much a year and a half so far. You can even cook wearing one, just sling them round your back so they can't get near anything sharp or hot. It does sound normal to me, unless my daughter is abnormal!

Thank you everyone - its good to know he is not the only baby that wants to be held all day

What sling did you use Horton? The Beco is £70.00

Read the Fussy Baby by Dr Sears. Buy a sling.

I got a Huggababy. I think it was about £40 but there are cheaper ones around (and secondhand would be fine if you happened to see one). I'm hoping to have another baby myself or I'd sell you ours!

Yes, the Beco's not cheap but I classed it as a treat to myself. It's quite new too, so probably not many second hand ones for sale. Patapum is similar. I think there's a second hand sling section on babywearer.com forums for similar soft structured carriers. Lots of advice there anyway.