3 1/2 DD2 and eating

[CeciC]

Today, my DD2 who will be 4 in January, hasn't eaten at all. Yesterday for dinner she wanted a "toasted" ham sandwich, and she ate just crisps with it, so I kept the sandwich for breakfast. Well, she had two very small bites of it during all day, despite telling me she is very hungry, but she is not hungry for the sandwich. It's not the first time that she doesn't want to eat what is for dinner, but usually she eats it at breakfast. She is not a very big girl, but she is very stuborn, even the threeat of going to hospital and have big neddles to her arms had no effect on her, even though she cried saying that she didn't want to go to hospital. I won't let her have any food until she eats the sandwich,I am a very stubborn as well but I think I might to have another way of getting her to eat what she asks for for another time.
Any advice very welcome.

After posting my last post, I realize that there were more posts to read.
Twelvelegs, I have been working f/t since she is 11 months old. She does eat breakfast at home and at the CM and lunch at CM. Dinner is at home. I work from 7 till 2 1/2. Up until this week, she would always eat what the CM offered. It would just at home that she would refuse to eat something. That is why I think that it is a way of having attention from me, but until now, if she wouldn't eat, I would not say a word, just remind her that there was nothing else and that is it.
I don't know why I am acting different towards this. I will have to praise more DD1 for eating her food, that getting cross with DD2 for not eating it.

I think the praising dd1 is a brilliant idea. And ignoring dd2 for not eating. Let us know how you get on tomorrow?

This morning DD2 had breakfast, well she had a toast at 4 in the morning as she was sick, we realise that the fact that she didn't have any in her tommy was making it worst, so we gave her some toast, and this morning she had normal breakfast. My DD1 was telling her that she would feel better if she had something to eat.
I felt so bad all night , that I come to a conclusion that I have to give me DD2 more attention in playing together or doing other things together, and then may be no eating will stop, and of course I have to learn not to get to upset with her for no eating.
I will keep you posted.

Don't feel bad, I think food is so emotive and difficult and caught up with wanting to make sure our children are healthy.

good luck, it's much easier to dish out advice than apply it!

Don't feel bad. It would be wonderful if this parenting stuff was easy, but it just isn't. Everyone is just muddling through as best we can.