Up until what age is it ok to co-sleep?

[MeMySonAndI]

I have to recognise that DS was not a baby exactly suitable for co sleeping (far too mobile even in the first week: going under covers, getting trapped between the bed and the wall, under my legs, etc).

However, everytime his father was away he would sleep in my bed, and what started as a special treat for the days daddy was not around has become more of a habit since his father and I separated.

Sometimes he needs his space and goes back to his room for weeks, and then he is back for other weeks at my room. I don't really mind, I put him in bed, read the story, talk about the day and then I leave him to seetle down while I go and finish other things around the house.

The question is, after all this babble, up until what age is it ok to co-sleep? he is 5 now BTW.

My mum and I slept in two single beds in my room until i was about 10. My dad is a horrendously restless sleeper and i was a scaredy cat.

I'm a well adjusted 30 something (who is still a bit of scaredy cat), my parents are still together (although in two single beds in the same room!!) and I'm really close to my mum.

i think as long as your all up for it.my ds2 grew out of it way before i was ready.he wanted his own space at about age 1 and half.

My nr 9 yr old DD is waiting for me, I fully expect my 4 yr old DS to be in at some point.

Normally DD is confined to non school nights, but DH away so extra girly snuggles for me.

She doesn't ask everyday, but fairly often - she has nighmares and sleepwalks when stressed or worried, it is the easiest way to help her relax.

Grappa "Do you know in all this rush to make our kids independent and not do things like co-sleeping and extended breastfeeding, I think we forget what kind of adults that results in."

My thoughts exactly. I haven't spoken to my father for 22 years, and my mother for almost 3. Terrible relationships with both of them who were strict, emotionally unavailable and overbearing parents. I'm trying to avoid making the same mistakes with my son, and letting myself give him all the love and physical comfort he needs.

Snippety and grappa, I completely agree! I had a really difficult relationship with my parents, I still do with my dad in many ways, but thanks to a lot of counselling (for both of us, but seperately) my mum and I now have a really good, close relationship. She bitterly regrets the strict authoritarian way they brought us up, and as a result rarely questions they way I am doing things with my children. We talk about it and she can see that I have thought it all through and am not just taking the path of least resistance (which is what some people think AP is really) but giving my children as much as I can and nurturing them so that they will be truely confident, secure and emotionally balanced people.

I have two little girls in my bed as I type this, DP is on nights, so DD1 has elected to keep me company!

I always remember DH saying "oh well it won't be like he's still wanting to sleep with us when he is 10"
He is 11 now and still likes to sleep with one of us now and then

My DD's are 13 and 10 and they still like to co sleep with me on the weekend. Mind you, it's only me. I have no DH or DP to worry about. Plus it makes the bed warmer!
And someone to cuddle up with

Co sleeping aint so bad really. It saves on the heating bill!

My 12 yo and 10 yo DCs sometimes get in bed with us.
DS1 very rarely, but he has a double bed, so sometimes we snuggle up and watch a movie, and I crash out with him.

DS2 is often poorly, and his medication gives him nightmares, so he often ends up with us.

As long as we all get some decent sleep, I don't mind who is where, tbh.