help- 2and half and wont stay in cot.

[ang22]

My 2 and half year old has slept through the night since she was 6 weeks old and in her cot in her own room. She is noe two and half and all of a sudden the last week she will wake in the night climb out her cot take all her clothes off and come in to our room. If put her back in cot she will sleep another three hours and repeat process till we give in and she will fall asleep in our bed. When i ask her why she just says for me not to leave her in her cot!! I have no idea why she is doing this and is it just a phase? She has just started nursery and we have new baby who is now twelve weeks. I dont know what to do as i only had an hours sleep last night between the two of them waking and i am shattered.

As backwards as it sounds I wwould try putting her in a bed.
We found with DD1 that she used to create merry hell in the cot but once she went into the bed (just after DD2 was born) she would wander a bit in the night but would happily go back into her bed as she didn't like the 'bars' (her words!)

Sounds to me like she may well be having bad dreams and yes she is probably ready for a big girl bed. We moved DD into a bed and now we can't get her out of her room she loves it so much!

Ang

Congratulations on the birth of your baby

Firstly, I would think about putting the cot's sides down, or putting DD into a proper bed - this is from a safety point of view as you really don't want her to be climbing and falling in the dead of night.

Tere could be any nuber of reasons why she is waking at night - obv the new baby, also cutting molars, being hungry, or even overtired from starting at nursery.

Can you tell us a bit about what her routine is like, perhaps we can unpick what is going on

All those typos.

I am so sorry.

Move her to a big bed. Take her shopping so that she can choose her first "big girl's duvet cover" and also a small treat that will sit on a high shelf and be presented to her once she spends a whole night in bed.

If she can climb out of her cot it is pointless and also dangerous keeping her in one.

I did think about putting her into a bed and making it a bit special for her in her room. Her routine was pretty good she would have dinner at five then bath and then stories and then into bed at between 7 and half seven which she would sometimes ask to go to bed if especially tired so has never had a problem with her cot. She does like me to sit with her till she falls asleep so dont know if this is a problem but it has never been a problem before. She does not sleep during the day now unless we are in the car. Dont think its hunger as she eats alot and still has milk before bed(only cos she loves it!) Did think maybe its because baby is in our room and she thinks she is missing out.

I think you know why this is happening (new baby in your room).

Definitely think she's way old enough for a big bed.

Is it a problem if she comes in with you for a cuddle some nights?

It doesn't have to mean co-sleeping long-term.

so should i continue putting her back into her cot or give in at let her sleep with us and just hope its a phase she will grow out of!

i would try and get her to stay in own room but ina bed not cot

really praise her for staying in bed tell her she is a big girl now

she'll want your time and will not want to be left out with abby in your room if your getting to tired let he r in your room but not in your bed with ds we made temporary bed on floor

at least then she wont get used to sleeping with you but near you it may well be a comfort thing and she may grow out of it

but for now so you get your rest maybe have her in your room just not your bed

Time for a bed, definitely. From a safety point of view if nothing else.

Time for a bed. And give her some Calpol before bed, it's classic molar time.