"Can dd wear trousers or socks with her skirt? She can't put her tights on on her own.

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Now I know that dd1 can put her own tights on no problem at all, she does it every morning. So whats going on at school? And what should I do? I don't want her legs getting cold and she won't wear trousers because her friends have skirts.

She is saying that she has never asked for any help putting her tights on and she doesn't know why the teachers have said she can't do it.

they don't know who your kid is

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Have they got the right child?
Could you send her in skirt and leggings? My dds always wear that sort of thing.

Perhaps she is taking too long to do it ?

I know that DD's class are very pressed for changing time before/after PE and so unless the kids dress quickly, they are very delayed in getting on with the rest of the lessons.

DD's school asked for no tights on gym days when she was in reception because it took the girls too long to put them back on, maybe this is what is going on here?

She has over the knee socks but has really skinny legs so they always fall down.

I'm wondering if they have the right child? She is adamant that she hasn't asked for help with her tights or wasted time talking instead of getting dressed. But it actually says her name on the note and she is the only one in her school with her name let alone her group.

Well if she does it at school like she does here she can do it really quickly. just as quickly as she can with socks. she has been dressing herself she was 2.

Should I make her wear trousers then? They definately have the right have the right child. They have even wrote it in ehr homework book.

dd likes to act the baby. I learned this after asking her nursery teachers why they had wrote in her report that she needed to improve her speech and counting. She can talk fine and can count.

Should I write a note in her book saying "I will get dd trousers as soon as I can get into town. But I have a feeling dd has playing games with you, she is more than capable of putting on her own tights. She can also talk properly, count, read and write her own name and cut up her own food. She does like to act at being a baby"

She could be trying it on with the teacher. My DD3 managed to convince her teacher last year that she was allergic to apples and bananas because she didn't want to eat them at fruit time. She does this butter wouldn't melt in my mouth look and the teacher fell for it bigtime and didn't realise that underneath that innocent face is the calculating brain of a master criminal.

Oh without a doubt if they have the right child and have not accidently wrote in the wrong book she is putting it on and I think the threat of having to wear trousers will stop it, but will the teachers believe this? Or will they just think that I am being precious?

i have half a mind to make her wear trousers anyway for messing the teachers about.

It is within her nature to make things up, especially if she can do things her friends can't.

Can you not talk to the teacher? Otherwise I think saying that if she can't put on her tights without making a fuss at school then she will have to wear trousers is probably a good way to go.

There is a whole world of difference between putting on tights that are neatly folded, the correct way round and obvious how to put on.... and the way the tights are presented at school - all unravelled from how the child has taken them off, one leg in, the other half out, completely unclear as to which side is the front and which side is the back and so on...

My DD can easily put tights on from scratch, but can't do it if they're in a mess (say she takes them off when she goes to the loo and they're all mixed up). Try getting her to take them off completely at home sometime, leave them bunched up in a mess and see if she can then unravel them correctly to put them back on again!

Our solution is that our DD wears tights and skirts on all days except PE days. As we know which day it is, on that day alone she wears trousers (I too was concerned about socks with skirts in the winter!). This works for us.

HTH

No I made her take her tights off at home a few times to see what she was doing. she could do it fine even when they were in a mess. Her tights are rarely folded neatly as far as housework goes I do the bare minimum I can get away.

I'm going to see her teacher and see what she has been doing tommorrow.

She has been dressing herself since 2 ffs. She is normally very independant about these things. Oh the fights we had over a pair of trousers I wanted to buy her when she was about 19/20 months old. She is going to be a stylist methinks

Why would she revert to not being able to do things at school. She is so infruiating. And I have no idea how I will get her to wear trousers if it comes to that. I will be taking her to school in her knickers. if she does not want to wear something she does not wear it. I have had very little control in the clothes dept for quite some time She is just so bloody minded and that has been one fight I didn't see as necessary so she is used to choosing her own clothes now.