I always thought penis envy was a daft idea, I mean, women don?t lack penises, they have their own genitalia, right? And isn?t it a very, very male idea that anyone without a penis must feel like they?re missing something? So dd is continuing in her unofficial mission to prove me wrong about everything I used to think before she was born, by insisting over the weekend that she?s a boy and has a penis. (I smiled and said, really? in the same tone as I do when she tells me she?s a kangaroo.)
So is there a mn-approved way of dealing with this? How do Freudians say she?s supposed to resolve the issue? Actually, don?t Freudians say she won?t resolve it totally? Are there post-Freudians (or something) with better ideas?
I remember lurking on a thread ages ago, where some child of psychoanalysts told a story about being asked as a child, ?do you wish you had a penis?? and her reply was, ?no, I?ve got a clitoris and a vagina, thanks?. That?s the attitude I want dd to have, but I?m not sure I?m ready to talk about clitorises with her. She?s 2 next week, by the way.