I think my ds may have ADHD, can someone who knows something about this talk to me

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My ds is 5 and a bit. He is very boisterous, very impatient, can't stick to an activity etc at home

I presumed he was better at school (he has started year 1 at a new school following a house move) as I hadn't had many comments on bad behaviour etc. At his last school we were taken aside at pickup time a couple of times a week about various incidents that had occurred during the day. a few times he was put on report/sent to head/missed playtime etc.

dh and I thought the (old) school were maybe overdoing it a bit andwere optimistic about the new place. however, we had a parents evening last night which was just dreadful.

Academically, ds is below average, though he has always been a bright inqisitive boy. he can't get to grips with sitting for any amount of time hence his reading and writing is coming on very slowly. he can't write sentences, forms his letters inconsistently etc. His teacher was lovely and said all of this is down to his lack of concentration.

She was giving him the benefit of the doubt to get settled in to the new school, but things aren't getting any better. And to be honest things are awful at home a lot of the time too.I sometimes dread the weekend and having to deal with him on my own when dh is working.

Ds' teacher said she will monitor him until christmas and then think about getting him assessed and calling in "outside agencies"

What exactly will this involve?

I am sure he will not be any better...he has been getting progressively worse over the last year or so. I really don't know much about this so i've had a brief look on the web and it seems like ds has all the characteristics of ADHD, on the NHS site it says that it tends to appear around age four.

I just feel so sad, like I have failed him in some way and I want to help him get better (is there a better?!) I don't know whther to wait it out or see if I can get him assessed sooner rather than later. i am really worried about him being labelled, and slipping through the net at such a young age. i would be grateful if anyone with experience of this could point me in the right direction for info and resources or just to chat.

TIA

length of time obviously varies a lot. Was very quick with my ds.

ma- I am happy to hear the diagnosis with your ds was quick

I am 99% sure I have ADHD (as does my father). Neither of us have been diagnosed of course.

Sometimes, I think we are actually more intelligent than the average person. We refuse to follow the crowd, question everything and are highly creative.

Of course, school (and the average workplace) are entirely the wrong environment for us. We can't follow rules, can't concentrate and usually get written off as stupid at an early age.

If either of my children show any signs of having ADHD/ADD then I shall seriously consider Home Education.

I only started to achieve things once I hit my late 30s and was able to force myself to concentrate. I started a degree, passed my driving test, and began some hobbies. I am also hoping to set up a business.

Try posting on the Special Needs thread - lots of brill info/advice there ( as well as here, of course )

xx