Wet pants anyone?

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My dd is 5 next week and started school last month. She comes home most days wearing wet pants, some days she has wet her pants and changed into the spare pants i always leave in her PE bag.
She is getting to the loo cos her pants are not wet through, i think she is just leaving it too late. she didn't used to do this pre going to school and is now starting to do it at home as well.
When asked about it she says she is lazy and i have said go to the loo when you first need a wee, don't leave it. etc etc.
I don't know what to do and now it almost seems like my dd doesn't want to tell me when she has wet pants cos she thinks she will get told off, although i have never shouted at her or anything for this.
Her bottom is getting sore from her having wet pants.
I just don't know what to do. Anyone had similar issue? please help.

Is their anything upsetting her at school?
for a young child to say when questioned, "I'm lazy" shows low self esteem.
I'd give her a little pack of wipes to tke to school and use at home and get her to clean herself after every accident and put on clean knickers, so she won't get sore.
She will soon realise this takes more effort than just going to the toilet.
I'd also have a word with her teacher.

dd has a lot of accidents when she started school also about a month ago we had a chat with me her and the teacher about how it doesn't matter and she should tell the teacher or assistant and they would sort her out and noone else would know. I would be worried about the lazy comment, where has she heard it from?

yes i am worried about it but don't want to put any pressure on her when i think she has enough to deal with by going to school.We had a chat at bedtime tonight and i said i am going to make a chart tomorrow and she can put stickers on when she has dry pants.
i don't think there is anything upsetting her at school, she really likes school and looks forward to it.
i have spoken to the classroom assistant about it and she was unaware of it. we spoke to dd together and told her to tell and she would help her without anyone else knowing.
I will try the reward chart for a while and keep it fun i think.

Ds is only just gone 4 but started doing this, he would get absorbed in doing things and not want to leave until the last minute so end up with starting in his pants (btw I wonder if a teacher or child at school has introduced the lazy concept to her thoughtlessly). Anyway I read somewhere about having a 'growing up' talk where you explain that they are 4/5 now. Talk about all the things they can do now they are 4/5 and how big they are and the clothing they need now their bodies are bigger. Then talk about how sometimes bits inside our body don't know we had our birthday and think we are still 3/4. We told ds his bladder was still trying to do wees in his pants because it thought maybe it was still only 3 and the only reason that some was going into the toilet was because he was a really smart, strong 4 year old who knew when he needed to go to the toilet. It has worked really well, I see him giggling and sometimes he will just walk off straight away and sometimes I just need to say "hmm I think your 4 year old body may need to teach that bladder to put wees where they belong" and he will go really nicely. DS is in general a very resistent child but it has put the power in his court and has worked vey well.

Thanks for that justgotbfp, i just soooo want to do this right. I don't want dd to get worried about this cos she is doing so well at settling in at school. My dd is quite determined and likes to do things when she is ready and her way so maybe a growing up talk would empower her.