3 year old unhappy to discuss nursery

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My 3 year old DS is not at all unhappy at nursery when he is there but really hates talking about what he has done there - in fact refuses to and just says "no mummy" when I ask him what he has done. He's 3 and 3 months so I dont know at what age he should be expected to relate his nursery experiences to me? He is in general terms ok at telling what he has done on a particular day with some prompting outside nursery (I work and he is with our nanny most of the time her isn't at nursery ie the afternoons). He's usually very excited to see me when I get home and wants to play with me (Will you play with me mummy?) and seems to regard having to say anything about what he has done as offensive.

Views? In the normal range?

yes v normal - when I read the thread title I knew this would be a boy

Don't worry. I've learned to wait, not ask immediately or even directly. DS will sometimes spontaneously tell me stuff during dinner, or bath.

Completely and utterly and totally normal, ime.

Ds is in yr 1 (i.e. 5 years) and still completely refuses to tell me anything about his school day.

oh and sorry should have said, you may never get NURSERY experiences related to you sadly! My ds has only just in year two started to talk more about school!

'Relating experiences' not high on many adult male's lists, either Don't worry about it.

true snaf

It's a whole other way of communicating isn't it. Or not!

Don't worry - DS is in reception and never says that much about what he did. DD doesn't say much about pre-school either.

My ds, nearly 7, is and was exactly the same. Its like getting blood out of a stone even now trying to find out what he did in school today! Usual answer is 'nothing' or 'can't remember' !

"I'm not telling you!" I think my DS1 thinks he is at MI5 not nursery. He is just 4 btw.

when asked what he has done today my ds replies "nothing" pretty much every day ... I would say "no mummy" is about right!

My nephew (8) when asked about his school day just replies: I don't like to talk about that.

So it may last a while...

My 11, nearly 12, year old does this too.

my 2 x 3.10 yo both say, "not talking to you daddy", when he asks about their day - one of them is more communacative than the other, but on our drive home I usually get what they had for dinner and tea, what games they played and who they fell out with....by the time they get home they are done talking and just want to watch backyardigans and eat toast.....

ds used to deny he went to preschool, or that there were other children there.

MI5 agents have nothing on him

ds is the same. He's nearly 4. I tend to ask things like "which songs did you sing today?" or "who did you play with?" or "did you have fun?" as specific questions seem to have more success and he tells me things without realising

i think this is normal, if worrying for the parents. My ds is approaching 4 and up until very recently, when I asked him what he had done and who he had played with, his stock response was "nuffink and nobody"

I have much more success if I ask specific questions although I am never sure if he is not just saying yes or no randomly to get me off his back (much like his father sometimes actually!). Do you like Miss Sophie (his teacher) usually has suceess, a beaming smile and a big yes and if I ask him if he had fun kicking a ball with miss sophie then he might volunteer that he did and it was fun. Maybe ~I am expecting too much for 3.3........