when does people put their baby in cot in own room

[hollygiz1]

my daughter is 13 weeks and is with us in room she has outgrown her moses so were thinking to put her in travel cot, some people keep telling us to put her in her own room but im not sure i want to do this yet just wondered what others did, she still wants her dummy through night and cant grip it v well so im always putting that in so think i would just be up all the time

I moved ds at 4m. Only kept him in our room for that long as house had no heating and was november. We had a little fan heater in our bedroom so kept ds with us for some warmth.

When we moved house he had his own room straight away.

On the topic of following guidelines I know of people who ignore them all! People do put babies on there front 'because they sleep better' which I think is why you shouldn't do it. Ds slept swaddled on his side. (don't think swaddling is allowed anymore either?) Lots of people of course smoke in the house after baby born. Also not supposed to co sleep with smoker but people do.

At the end of the day looking after a baby is the parents responsibilty and they have to accept that if something goes wrong.

Do what your instincts tell you. That is what they are there for.

peachsmuggler: unclefluffy has explained why people don't follow this guideline. It's hard to find evidence that it is based on research. Does anyone have know of any?

Wade, peachsmuggler - I tried again. Because I am stubborn. And I love the Bad Science column in the Guardian. The American Academy of Pediatrics found the evidence strong enough to recommend room sharing.

However, following up their references, I found this: "Sleeping in a separate room did not appear to be associated either with risk or protection unless at least one parent was a smoker, in which case it appeared to increase risk. Although this appears counter intuitive, one possible explanation is that a ??deficient hypoxia awakening response?? among infants of smoking mothers may be ameliorated by the increased sensory stimulation in room with parents." It's from this paper. I'm reaching the limits of my statistical knowledge here, but the evidence doesn't seem overwhelming to me. Doesn't help that the paper is mostly about bed-sharing, and less about room-sharing, but still...

Ds was in his own room at 10 weeks as he outgrew his moses basket. We had a breathing monitor too though so I felt better about the whole SIDS thing.

Both mine went into their own rooms as soon as we came home from the hospital. They slept in the moses basket inside the cot.

I had a very sensitive monitor at my side of the bed.

My Dd was in her cot at 6 weeks.
It worked for us as DP and DD both slept better.
I weighed up all our options, non-smoking parents, BF baby, correct room temp, slept on her back etc etc...so felt comfortable with the move early, also had a sensor mat so that helped ALOT.
Good luck and do what feels right for you and your family.

I put our ds in his own room at 5 months, he was a big baby and had out grown his moses basket and no room for his big cotbed in our room. He was sleeping through by then and took to it fine. We have a video baby monitor though so i can always see and hear him. If you're not ready then don't do it! Do what you feel is best and don't feel ressured, she's still very young, if she's not sleeping through yet then I would maybe not bother or else you'll just be in and out of her room all night!