Nursery Problems or Paranoia!!!???

[steph101]

My dd has attended nursery since she was 6 months old (2 days a week) and since then she has grown into a lovely, happy, intelligent 2 year old. Since the start she has been in 2 different classes - a baby room and then toddler room (3 days a week) and in both the staff have genuinly seemed to like her and always had her best interests at heart, and she has been very happy in nursery. A couple of months ago she was moved in to "school room" and its completley different. Both me and dp feel that the staff dont really like dd and she is turning in to a different child. At home she is fine and has not changed but going to nursery has become quiet an ordeal and she either cries her heart out when we leave her or she just puts her head down and looks glum. I am not really sure if this could be put down to a phase or if I need to act upon this now and discuss it with the nursery. I am told by the staff that she is happy during the day however a lot of the times when i arrive to pick her up I find her playing by herself and not with the others.

Dd is my only one and I have no experience of nurserys and im not sure if I am just being over protective or paranoid tbh. Any advice would be appreciated!

I would follow your instinct. If she was happy before and not now then something is definately upsetting her.

What do you mean they 'don't like her'?

Just that they dont seem to be bothered with her, example = today she fell over on her face and i was told that it was her own fault as she had got up on to her knees at story time and toppled over face first instead of being sat on her bottom. She is just 2!! I am all up for rules but to blame her for falling over is a bit much IMO. Also when ever I have concerns like when I always find her by herself when I pick it up I feel like im always brushed aside.

I had this with my dd1 when she moved between rooms when she was 2 - she went from very happy to be at nursery to very upset or very quiet when I dropped her off. I had concerns about one of the staff and how she was dealing with dd (for example she used to ignore her when I took her in the mornings, didn't greet her or pull her into the group at all)after sometime and my mum and mil voicing similar concerns I raised it with the owner. She took my concerns very seriously and the girl in question was moved to a different room away from dd. The difference in dd was immediate and very noticeable. I did agonise before raising it though as, like you, I thought I might be being overprotective or paranoid. But now I would always go with my instincts.

steph - our posts crossed - I would definitely raise your concerns, that is not acceptable - your poor dd!

have they moved her up too soon to make space for another child in her old toddler room?

They moved her up early as she loved it so much originally!!! She has been there since July. The rest of the class followed her in Sept. I was hoping this would help as she knows all the other children. I wish she could go back or we could have the same staff in the new class - that would be fantastic!

steph - talk to the manager. That attitude sounds really uncaring and unprofessional. She is very young. nothing is 'her pown fault'. An accident maybe, but not her fault. Think you'll have to go with your instincts here. Something sounds fishy.

I would be very about a nursery that had a room for 2 year olds called "school room" Surely 2 years old is still young enough to be considered to be a toddler.

I spoke to the nursery today and they said they would do all they could to help. Fingers crossed! Thanks for you replies x

Aged two and in a "school room". Is mad, and to expect such rigid behaviour is unattainable and plain wrong for a two year old.

DS is 3 and has just started pre-school, 2 afternoons a week and I would be very cross if they were expecting "pre-school " behaviour. He is still a toddler.