Help with Flameboy PLEASE

[Flamesparrow]

He does things, you tell him not to, various punishments etc, and he ignores you.

Most of the time it is a case of you can just keep repeating, BUT... he threw apples over the neighbours (trying sell their house ) fence onto their perfectly mown lawn.

He is too young to "get" going round to apologise.

In the same way he has been too young to understand "They don't like you standing on the table starkers yelling over their fence "BABY!!! BABY!!" at their son"

Obv we stop him and remove him whenever it starts, but he can have been playing nicely whilst I'm pegging the washing, I then suddenly realise he's throwing apples/scaling the fence etc

They are lovely people, with a little boy of their own, but he is a nice little boy who barely makes a sound and even less often a tantrum out there!!

We must be the neighbours from hell

How do I stop him doing it?????????????????

How old is your DS? How old is the neighbours boy and baby? have you got any other children?

I do sympathise re the neighbours thing

DD1 (4.9) is constantly out the back hassling our neighbours

"Can I come over? CAn I come into your house? What are you doing?" etc etc etc

Sorry you may not agree but the corner has worked very well for us. Only 4 mins then get to his level and make a very simple statement why he did what he did was naughty. Get him to say sorry to you and neighbour if they are around. The don't speak about it again.

Corners he just gets up from. We tend to go with sitting on my lap being held for 2 mins, and then he has to say sorry. (to us, the throwing is a fun new game )

He is 2.8, I have DD who is 5 and she didn't do stuff like this. She is also AS so has a whole different parenting system that works for her

Get 'how to talk' it's brill with no punishment nonsense that works once or twice then they become defiant.

If it's just that one thing can you not get some bamboo sheeting?(£10 in argos) to put on the fence so he can't scale it or throw things over?

TBH I think children should be ale to play in the garden pretty much unsupervised, both for their and our sake, so making it not possible is easier in the long run.

He can climb anything and throw bloody high

I do have the book - will go dig it out and actually read it

How about a sign?
Could you and he sit down and do a 'no climbing' sign which you could then put on the fence just to remind him?
It's probable he knows he isn't meant to but forgets when he starts to so a sign would serve to remind him iyswim. Plus if he did it with you it reinforces it.

Gotta be worth a shot!

^Anything is worth a shot, right?

I once saw a friend stand her child in the corner, facing the corner, and then hold him in position for the required 2 minutes. Not forcefully but firmly and with no interaction IYSWIM.

Bizarrely, BabyDragon will sit on the bottom stir. She once sat there a full 30 minutes glaring at me rather than apologise

Some children are like this.

You have to be on top of the situation all the time. Eyes in the back of your head. You know if you go out to peg washing out that he's likely to try something. Watch him. Stop him before he starts or as soon as you realise what he's doing. Tell him it's wrong and why. If he continues, take him inside and tell him why again. Warn/remind him before you go out with him. Tell him that it upsets you and the neighbours but most of all try to stay one step ahead of him.

Really tiring having a child with so much energy but the message will get through if you keep it up.