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Tantrum controls ?

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Nappyzoneneedssleep · 25/09/2008 19:12

My ds is 2 in Nov, he has the odd little paddy stamping his feet and saying no no no no much to my amusement as dd never did this so its new to me - anyway tonight after nursery he was trying to play with dd scooter and it kept toppling so i stood it up for him and he got a paddy on so i removed it from him and said two young for it and put it out of site - set up tea and he just totally paddied for about 40 mins - we ignored him rolling round the floor through tea and then i tried to pick him up and distract him which worked for a few mins but then he started again - finally i sat on the stairs and held him tight and after about 5/10 or who knows how long mins of thrashing he calmed whilst i tried humming, singing westlife (wasnt pretty) etc...., when calmed i distracted with usual wheres daddy (who was still at work grrrrrrrr)- moment slater he scranned all his tea then was deliriosly happy - sooooooooo give me a top tip or an idea of what some smart ass guru says you should do and works as i can see this is not going to be the last of the Addy paddys and i would like to think i was dealing with this in a correct fashion. I need wine.

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girliefriend · 25/09/2008 20:12

Sounds like you did great! I have very little patience when it some to temper tantrums and honestly think you just have to let them get on with it knowing it is a normal developmental stage that they will/ should (please god) grow out of! The latest advive I heard was that you shouldn't ignore them compleatly as this could lead to issues for them later on about how to deal with feeling angry! So i think you are meant to ignore them to a certain degree but also talk to them about how they might be feeling ie oh my godness you are feeling so cross you are kicking/ rolling around the floor etc. I find picking my dd up and removing her to another room works well xXx

girliefriend · 25/09/2008 20:12

Sounds like you did great! I have very little patience when it some to temper tantrums and honestly think you just have to let them get on with it knowing it is a normal developmental stage that they will/ should (please god) grow out of! The latest advive I heard was that you shouldn't ignore them compleatly as this could lead to issues for them later on about how to deal with feeling angry! So i think you are meant to ignore them to a certain degree but also talk to them about how they might be feeling ie oh my godness you are feeling so cross you are kicking/ rolling around the floor etc. I find picking my dd up and removing her to another room works well xXx

Nappyzoneneedssleep · 25/09/2008 20:35

lol i have no patience! i find it easier to ignore and blank it out but clearly this wasnt working - i had no idea tantrums went on so long! I suppose i could have popped him in his cot - dh wants to put him in a bed this wwekend - i am now thinking no way as the cot was my last resort and he could get out the bed! Ooooo hope this stage doesnt last long - i am on my 2nd glass of wine so it cant be good for me

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Nappyzoneneedssleep · 25/09/2008 20:35

lol i have no patience! i find it easier to ignore and blank it out but clearly this wasnt working - i had no idea tantrums went on so long! I suppose i could have popped him in his cot - dh wants to put him in a bed this wwekend - i am now thinking no way as the cot was my last resort and he could get out the bed! Ooooo hope this stage doesnt last long - i am on my 2nd glass of wine so it cant be good for me

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