Am I wrong to do this? Am I setting things up to cause problems?

[ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe]

My son is 7 and has lost 3 teeth in the last 12 months. Last time the tooth fairy (me writing very small) left him a note and he was so thrilled and excited and believed me that she was real. He wanted a note from her last week but I forgot didn't get one as he had been naughty. He mentioned it later too. We were meant to be going to buy him a toy he had saved for tonight but I have said no as they all were naughty this morning. I hit on the idea of the tooth fairy leaving a note saying she was disappointed he was naughty as she had been looking forward to seeing him with his new game. I just thought it might be a fun way to get a point across but am I going to make him mistrust me in future or cause any other problems?

Sounds a bit confusing for him. Punish him by all means (at the time) for being naughty, but don't involve the TF, she's not Santa you know and should deliver regardless.

I wouldn't. I would have resented that at his age. Punish by all means, but don't drag others into it, least of all innocent fairies.

Sorry but LOL.

No one answered me in time so I left the note on his pillow. He was excited to get it and is sad she is upset and has been an angel all afternoon.

The TF did deliver when he lost his tooth, it is just she has left notes with the money and is very excited about getting notes.

He's going to hate me when he realises she isn't real, isn't he?

By the time he figures it out he will feel you got one over on him

I'm in trouble again as he wrote a letter to the TF and she didn't take it. Oops.

I have told him to leave it on my bed and she should see it there.

Hmm, wondering if this might go too far????!

maybe leave him a reply to this one saying that she won't be around to pick up notes for a while as she has to go and see some other children - but to look after his teeth as she will be back when it is time for the next one to fall out and she wants them nice and shiny!

(ie let him down gently but put a stop to the constant notes and disencourage him from trying to knock his own teeth out so that she comes back!)

He hasn't thought of doing that, but good point!

I did say she had other children to go too which is why she didn't come last night but it is a genius idea to suggest she says she can't come as often.

DH said this morning we'd be setting up a pen club!!

I wrote the letter and now he is sad she won't write all the time. He keeps asking me if she can write once a week.

TF used to leave notes with money sometimes for us when we were children - notably when DB left her one explaining about inflation - she responded with a detailed account of the rising costs of the whole TF operation

Communication with the TF other than when there is a tooth to be collected sounds like a bad idea to me - how is she meant to meet contracted service levels if she has to constantly check to see if your DS has left her a note? Not fair on the poor fairy.

well done Imnotmama - it will pass - maybe go fairy hunting in the garden

I always say the TF phoned while he was at school and left a message! "No, sorry you can't call her back cos she didn't leave her number but if you tell me what to say I'll let her know next time she calls!"

I onced wrote a note to the tooth fairy trying to catch her out. I asked for a sweet pea (the flower it was winter) and an old coin. She left me a garden pea and a sixpence!

My dd lost her first tooth on Tuesday night so we did the tooth fairy thing for the first time. Typically the tooth came out on a night we were short of change so Dp was sent to the shop. When I told my friend this who has a 13 year old she said 'Oh we avoided that by telling dd that the tooth fairy was only in the area on certain days.'

He still asks if she has left a note as soon as he gets home. [oops]

one of the fond memories I have of my grandfather was when he took us to a place at the bottom of our garden he had drawn a big ring in the earth and said the fairies had been and we must make a wish,being little kids we wished for things like sweets,rings,toys,cars e.t.c he had buried within the "fairy ring " some of these objects and made us believe they had been left there for us by the fairies at the bottom of the garden.That was about 36 years ago and it still makes me smile.

That is so lovely.

What worries me is he obviously believes she is real and he is going to not trust me again when he finds out. The kids at school would tease him if they knew.