the full story: 4.5 mth DS who won't nap in his cot (only very ocassionally after he has been crying on and off for varying times) and only accepts being pushed in his pram to sleep - i.e. he uses motion as a prop to nap. He tends to need 3 naps a day, ideally each 1.5 hr long. This is easier in a pram as when he finishes his sleep cycle, and starts to moan I can push him back to sleep again. However I really want him to start napping in his cot now as our house isn't big enough to keep a pram inside and also I am worried that by keeping doing this I am perpetuing a bad habit. at night time, he tends to get v. tired before 6 PM (his last nap of the day is approximately 3-4.30 as he would hardly ever sleep after that) but I resist putting him down before 6.45 as he'd wake up even earlier than normal - 5-6 AM, after he's had a bath, massage and a feed by which point he falls asleep while BF. then I can either move him to his cot asleep (I know, I shouldn't do that!) or gently wake him up and put him down at which point he'll cry for up to 30 mins. He also doesn't sleep thru night and wants the breast even though i know that he's not hungry. Typically, I feed him at 10PM, 3AM and 5-6AM and which point he's still tired but won't sleep more. My dilema is this - I don't want to let him cry it out as I think that's cruel but equally feel he needs to learn to fall asleep on his own and the longer I'll leave it the harder it will be! If I stay with him until he falls asleep and pat him and sing to him, he still cries a lot and it upsets us both (and eventually falls asleep)but it seems like the only middle way I can think of. Is this as bad as letting him cry it out? I should add that if i pick him up (but don't nurse or push in pram) he doesn't get comforted by that. Please help, I am desperate! Any suggestions would be VERY welcome.