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16 month old not pointing, waving or talking - worried

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catski · 23/08/2008 11:52

So, I've been reading that pointing/waving are pretty important developmental milestones and can be red flag for autism. My son does neither at 16 months.

He also doesn't say anything yet (there's a lot of babble coming from him but nothing that resembles a word, or even an attempt of a word. He says "babmm" a lot - no idea what that mean, if anything!). However, we live in sweden and his father is swedish so he has two language systems to work out.

He walked fairly early - 10 months - and now walks, runs and climbs everywhere. He seems a very active, physical little boy. He seems interested in other children. He turns round most of the time when you call his name (but sometimes doesn't). He likes to come for cuddles. He seems a pretty laid back type - doesn't have any real meltdowns, isn't really phased by changes in his routine.

However, there doesn't seem to be much in the way of purposeful communication from him. I tried the pointing at something and seeing if he followed the point this morning - nada. He doesn't really bring me anything to show me (although very occasionally seems to do so) and I can't detect anything in the way of pretend play yet. Is the pointing/waving something you have to teach them, or should it come automatically? We're not really a family of pointers/wavers although I do point at pictures in books when we read them (he very much likes books).

Should I be worried? I'm thinking about making an appointment with the hv on monday, but maybe I should wait until 18 months if he is still the same???? I am so worried. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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catski · 21/01/2025 12:46

Hi all

its been a long time since I logged in here but when I did there were a few messages from worried parents asking how my son was doing now.

Hes 17, in the last year of his a levels and learning to drive is how he’s doing!

as I mentioned up thread, his diagnosis did get removed. He’s not had any issues or difficulties with his cohort over the years and I don’t expect this to change. I told him recently that he had an autism diagnosis for a while when he was little and his reaction was ‘so what?’ :D. He has and always will be a pretty laid back character.

my heart goes out to everyone worrying about their little one. I really found the Hanen books a great help as it felt I could do something practical whilst waiting for professional help, and the passage of time.

things may have moved on by now though, so the SN board will be the best place to ask questions and get up to date info. Wishing you and your dc the best xxx

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