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I am at my wits end with my 5 year old son.

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sjb2405 · 17/08/2008 12:03

Hi, i am in need of help. My 5 year old son is driving me and my husband crazy. he can be sweet,loving and funny but this can change over nothing and he becomes aggressive, rude, calls us names, throws things, screams at us. One example: this morning everything was great and he asked me if he could have a MacDonalds for his lunch( he went to McD for the first time a couple of weks ago) i said "no, not today" and he went crazy. we have in the past stopped tv, no going on the computer, no sweets, no treats. he also started talking about dying and saying things like " i am going to kill myself". i find this totally horrifying and am sure i never acted like this as a child. I know smacking is not the answer but i am running out of ideas and i know if i ask my family for help that will be their answer. yesterday we were out with a friend of his and they started bickering (they are both as bad as each other) and they decided that they would rather get a different bus home than us! i was and still am really upset by this. i know it is not all my son's fault as he has some friends that he plays beautifully with and he is an angel at nursery. it is almost as if he wants to hurt us. He tells my husband he hates him all the time and wishes he would live in another house and he also swears.
he starts school on thursday.i could go on and on but i think i am going to start crying. i feel like the worse mother in the world.

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lingle · 18/08/2008 21:40

sjb

  1. this morning everything was great up to a certain point
  2. He has friends he plays beautifully with
  3. he's an angel at nursery.
Take some credit for those thing. Don't cry, you are definitely not the worst mother in the world. You sound pretty good to me.

A friend of mine started trying to think of situations that never led to fights - eg there was never a fight over the car seat belt because that rule was applied consistently. I'm wondering if there's scope to assess whether you're being consistent? Also, he sounds angry, like he was expecting a reward for being good this morning. Definitey it may be worth fishing out that copy of "How to talk..." and try to find out what's bothering him using their techniques.

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