in our house, my husband rules, ds 5 loves his dad v much but (isn't there always) dh is great until something goes wrong and when he goes off on one he rants and rages, sometimes name calling. He can fly of the handle about such trivial things, like yesterday I was ten mins late picking him up and he walked rather than wait, he starts if we take to long getting ready to go out or the tea is running late. He is a bloody control freak and so i tie myself in knots trying to make sure nothing starts him off and it is getting me down.
I have always stayed, tried my best not to argue back because i didn't want to split our family up and the good times outweighed the bad. All couples have their ups and downs etc. But lately my dh has become increasingly controlling and bad tempered, he has no control over his tongue when he rants and raves and I worry about the effect this will have on my son.
If we were to cplit up, is it too late to demonstrate to my son happy behaviour and also the split could also have an adverse effect so what do I do for the best? i worry he will turn out to be a carbon copy of his Dad and it'll be all my fault for trying to keep the family together instead of leaving him during ds formative years.
The weight of the guilt is weighing heavy and I really need some advice.