What do you do when other kids are being so unkind to your child? Help?

[nellypew]

8 year old DD is a very gentle, sensitive child who just wants to go out and play with all the kids in the street. But... there's one Queen Bee who is allowed to dictate who is allowed to play, and who isn't. At the moment DD is the current target for alienation . DD seems to cope with this better than me. I want to go out and tell Queen Bee EXACTLY what I think about her, and to let her have a taste of her own medicine - as a rational and reasonable intelligent woman I know this is not how I should be dealing with this, but as a mother.........well!!
Advice.....please

I am extremely 'inappropriate' about this sort of thing ..(actually i think I am absolutely bang on the money but few parenting 'experts' would concurr with me)

There is a girl in dd's class who (Year 1, Year 2 next Sept) who behaves similarly dictating who can play, who is excluded etc.

When dd tells me she has had a terrible day because of 'x', I tell dd that other child is unpleasant and dd is so much better than her because she wouldn't dream of behaving thus and is considerate to others (amazing how that mollifies dd). Actually I think it is completely valid to say this to dd because other child's behaviour is undermining dd's confidence and that needs to be counterbalanced.

I also tell dd to tell other child that she is being nasty and that dd will not invite her over to play etc in future if she carries on.