can a 4 month old manipulate you!?

[romysmum]

I am a first time mum, and dd is 4 months old. she is not an easy baby, very whingey and doesnt like to sleep much!! yes I know the 2 go hand in hand!!, but she will only look at a toy or play with something for about 10 mins max before she gets bored and starts whining again, she is the same in her pram, 10 mins into a walk, and she whines. She is very bright (and beautiful!), and is already rolling over. Do you think she could just be frustrated or as my HV said, maybe she is just miserable - very helpful- any suggestions most welcome. Is my giving in any changing her toy/view making things worse?

Romysmum, my DS is 6.5 months and very much like meandmyjoe's DS (sorry MAMJ!) He is very very clingy, very demanding, won't be put down (AT ALL today!), fights sleep during the day and is currently on hunger strike.

But.........it is getting a teensy bit easier as the weeks go by. He was even worse a couple of months ago. On a positive note, he's good when with other people, sleeps well at night and can be an absolute joy when he wants to be.

I live in hope that he changes even more before I go back to work in September. Gingerninja is right - you need to find coping mechanisms. Go to mums and baby groups. Even if your DC kicks off, don't leave - it only makes things more isolating. Use slings, go outside lots and above all else, don't blame yourself. They do change. Babies don't stay babies forever.

Sorry if I'm assuming your DC is the same as mine - hopefully yours will grow out of it very soon and you can enjoy motherhood properly

Angel, funny you should mention the Jumperoo, we bought one at the weekend!! Makes her smile (still only for 10 mins though!!!) we too dance to the music, its really funky! thanks for your support, really good to know there are others in the same boat. Also we've been putting her in a sling this weekend, and she seems to like it. Teething has been particularly bad today, shes is chewing at her hands and dribbling like made, but wont take a teether, think she is too little to hold onto it bless her...front top coming through first