your thoughts please on my 15month olds potentially violent behaviour

[mummag]

Hi again
my ds 15months hits constantly and chucks everything he picks up, he is loving and then with a big smile and a chuckle gives u a punch in the face or chucks somat at you. Doesnt seem to be malicious but who am i to say. He does it to his little friends but saves the big whacks for big bro and sis, who laugh at it till it hurts. Help

He's 15mo.

Malicious doesn't come into it at this age.

usual behaviour

and not malicious

move him away from the person he is smacking and say "no" in a low firm voice

do this each time

like most things it is a phase and will pass

Completely normal. His siblings have taught him to do this by their lovely reaction. Agree with RubySlippers, ut you must also have your other dcs stop reacting to the thumping.

Normal.

my ds also throws everything and anything. (22m) I say no and ask him to roll/pass it to me etc and then join in rolling game or whatever.

and I get him outside into garden to chuck throw about and burn off energy.

My 13mo dd does this. It's normal behaviour I'm affraid. We're trying to establish a no biting rule atm, she's taking chunks out of us! They're young and don't undersand. Do what rubyslippers suggested by saying no and putting him down. Your ds will hopefully soon start to understand that poeple don't want him if he's going to do it.

He is a baby. He does it because he gets a reaction. He has no idea it hurts. Just put him down or move him if he does it and say no.

totally normal.

totally agree with everyone else

this is normal behaviour

firmly say no, move away , put him dwon, don;t react with a big shouty voice, as tehy love the attention

agree with everyone - and it's not helpful to ascribe adult motivations to toddler behaviour, as in malicious or violent - because children don't act from the same motivations as adults! A child is simply acting as nature dictates - they're hard wired to learn.

It's just up to us to help them learn where the boundaries are.