Ideas needed for very fussy eater

[Bubbaloo]

Ds1 has just turned 3 and is driving me mad with his lack of eating.
I know it's very common but he ate everything I made him until about a year ago and now it's gradually getting worse and I'm running out of food/meal ideas.
He will not eat rice,eggs,potatoes(of any kind),couscous,pasta,noodles,fish,vegetables(except carrot)anything breaded or battered,won't eat anything in a sauce such as curry or casserole etc... and will sometimes eat sausages and very occassionally he'll eat pasta.
He likes most meat,baked beans(sometimes),bread,cheese,yoghurt and fruit.
He doesn't snack during the day and although he likes sweets,he is not a child that can be bribed with them,for eating his dinner.He said he wanted sausages,beans and tomatoes for dinner tonight but all he ate were the tomatoes and he'll probably ask for a banana near bedtime.
If anyone has any ideas I'd really welcome them,please.

I've an idea.
Don't indulge him.
The more you do the worse he will get.
Make what you want and if he eats it, great. If not, take it away without comment.

He won't starve.

Knock it on the head! Food offered at mealtimes only, or when everyone else is eating -eg granny over for tea and a biscuit. No substitutes/alternatives etc, and eat together. No attention to eating/not eating, and change the subject at 'I don't like...' I'm totally not an expert, and if there are health issues get better advice, but this worked for my ds2. Good luck!

my only suggestion is not to stop offerting a wide variety of foods.
if you get anxious and start to only serve the foods he will eat then you end up confirming his suspicions.

I have a son whose fussiness is part of his disorder so I do know how disheartening it is.
But even children like him won't deliberately starve themselves. So offer veggies with meat , a decent selection of pudds and let him have a fair amount of the foods he likes within that.
Don't offer more and more ofthe foods he will eat to compensate.

i find a glass of wine and a closed door sort that one ruby!

Thanks,that all makes sense but he is so determined not to eat and it's a real struggle every day to try and get him to eat something,when 90% of the time it gets thrown in the bin.
He sleeps very well and charges around with plenty of energy,so perhaps I should try not to worry about it so much,and hope he grows out of it.

Maybe I'm a softie and I certainly don't have direct experience but I would be tempted to look at the things he does eat- meat, bread, cheese, yogurt, fruit and sometimes baked beans and see if I could incorporate one of them of your choosing into each meal that I offer him. For example, if I were making shepherds pie for the family I would put some shepherds pie on a plate, but also some bread or a piece of cheese (just wild examples!) and then follow it with yogurt or fruit of his choosing. That way you are giving him something you are fairly sure he will eat, but you are not shying away from putting something on his plate that he doesn't like. I'm of the same essential opinion as Moondog, but I sense that if you add something you are confident he will eat it will help lessen your anxiety too, which can only help it all seem less of an issue IYSWIM.

hI Bobbaloo,
My DD1, 7, was very fussy eater, and my solution was to make a meal, and if she didn't eat it, there was nothing else, until she ate what I was offering. I did it when she was 4 and I was at home on ML of DD2, and it was very difficutl for me as I haven't been brought up like this. My mum still cooks different meals for different people. She didn't eat anything in 24 hours, but at the end she ate what I cooked. I served the same this, for dinner, breakfast and lunch, and then at dinner again, and then she ate it. For a few days I cooked meals that she liked, and after 3 or 4 days, I cooked something that I knew had ingrideints that she didn't like, and again, she didn't eat in 24 hour, not even milk was offered. After the 3rd time, things got better, and we still quite fussy, but now she will try, and eat what is on offer. I have to say that schools dinners had helped as well.
Sorry for the long post, but I did the same that you, just offering what she did like, and with time, her menu got very small. If there is food, they will not starve themselves, they will eat what it is on offer.