7 year old ds being voilent to me

[cheesesarnie]

he hits,punched,kicks,pushes,pulls and growls at me.hes being bullied at school and seems to be doing to me what the bully is doing to him.weve seen teachers and head is is now being taken care of and hes not had an incident with the bully for 2 days.although i know the bully has hit others on these days.
his 2.5 year old brother is copying him too.its only towards me,not dh,dd and ds2.
what do i do?how do i teach him its not acceptable?

firstly I'd say make sure you keep talking to him and communicating about the bullying. It's great you've seen the teachers and something is being done but I think he needs to be able to feel that you don't think that's all 'done' with now and that the attention is gone from it. He might still be really anxious about it continuing so I think it's really worth trying to draw him out about it and talk about it so he knows people are still on the case.

Other than that of course what he's doing to you is not acceptable and it needs a consequence. If it were me I might sit him in his room for a couple of minutes after a REALLY stern 'you do not do that to me'....but I think move on quickly after the consequence, don't dwell on it. Maybe sit on his bed and give him a cuddle and say how YOU feel as HE feels when the bully hits him; he's got you and his dad to stick up for him when he's feeling upset, and you don't have that, so you feel upset!

thankyou.we are still making sure he knows its not just 'dealt with' so all over iyswim.and i found out this morning that not being bullied for two days has probably less to do with it being dealt with but more to do with the fact the bully was kept inside 2 days running due to bad behaviour.as well as dh and i,my mum,and one of my sisters is talking to him about it so he knows that he has lots of support.

ive tried sending him to his room but he wont go so i had to carry him up(which didnt feel right as i was physically moving him) and hes heavy!ive tried telling him that he makes me feel like he must feel when the bully hits him but it doesnt seem to have any affect.