feel like the worst mum in the world

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The last few nights my DS (2.3) has been waking up. This morning he woke before 5 when I had less than 4 hours sleep and he wouldn't go back even when we brought him into our bed. Well I am normally quite patient with my son and whilst I am not a perfect mother I do have a great bond/relationship with him and he is generally so well behaved. However this morning I lost my patience with him and was a bit rough with him. There is absolutely no excuse for this and I said sorry and gave him a big hug (I had been changing his nappy on the living room floor grabbed him by both arms and pretty much shoved/threw him on the sofa). He was so upset and I feel so so terrible. I know it is just sleep deprivation on top of a busy period for us but I hate myself for doing it. just needed to off load some guilt i suppose

give yourself a break !! (and literally). can you get someone else to look after him for a while today so you can have some you time, a bath, a coffee out somewhere or r invite a good friend and their dc to come over? otherwise ask your dh to take the night shift tonight so you get a rest - we do this sometimes if i am exhausted by lack of sleep )older child chronic condition menaing interupted nights) - it takes teh pressure off. also - when you are feeling better try potty training this summer - just leave off the nappy - or go to see friend with older nappy free child! don't beat yourself up

Sorry you are feeling so bad, but I can assure you that most of us have had these moments from time to time, especially when very tired & stressed. We always feel guilty after, but being a mum is very tough & I know I lose it from time to time, so you are not the worst mum in the world!

Last time I grabbed my 8 year old DS in a similar way, after being pushed to the absolute limit, he grinned & said "That was fun, do it again!" Grr!

Don't beat yourself up!

Oh God I've been there!

The important thing is that you realised it was out of frustration and sleep deprivation and you apologised and made him feel better with a hug. Don't feel bad, you're not a bad mum.

oh love, please dont be too harsh on yourself. The fact that you are so upset about it means you are definitely not the worst mum in the world.

i did something similar to my DS a while back and the look on his face was absolutely awful because I'd never "lost it" before with him. I know how you are feeling.

as long as you said sorry and gave him a big hug he will be fine, honestly he wont remember it and if he does you'll be surprised how much he'll take it in his stride.

its hard work being a mum without any sleep.

My DS (a bit older than yours) said a few days afterwards, "mummy you were cross werent you? but you're ok now and you were a good girl and said sorry"

Oh thanks guys! I was facing a night shift tonight (nurse) and I am supposed to be travelling 200 miles to visit my parents this weekend (who I don't have a brilliant realtionship with) so I suppose sleep deprivation and stress got the better of me. I haven't been feeling too well the last couple of days so I have cancelled my shift (only feel a bit guilty!). I am actually hoping I am pregnant as TTC! I just need to chill a little I think. My wonderful MIL is away today as she would normally help out but I will give some friends a buzz, company always helps. Thanks again it really helps to talk. Have a good day, I at least know my son will sleep later so I will be sure to curl up and have a nap

Can you try and get your ds to have a nap this afternoon and you try to have a nap to.

BTW i found with dd1 she would sleep realy bad the more tired she got IYSWIM.