a maybe silly worry about snatching toys and pushing

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It is not DD that is doing this but other toddlers to her..she is 18m.
The thing is she is not making any advance whatsoever to snatch them back or retaliate. She just looks at the other child in amazement. I wasn't really too worried but today my Mum made a comment that she is mild mannered and she hopes she won't be bullied which has really upset me.

She is my first and I am not really clued up on stuff like this. It has happened to her at groups, both with children she knows and doesn't. I don't want her to be aggressive don't get me wrong but just a little more fiesty when someone snatches a toy she has been playing with, at last to try to get it back.....is this normal?

no. Don't worry. All children are different.

My Dc's have all been the same and they are big now and stick up for themselves just fine.
Your mum was being a bit silly tbh.

really oh that makes me feel a bit better

so normal! don't worry. It's far too soon to judge whether this will be an on-going thing she does.

I would guess that she will get more territorial/retaliatory when she hits two or three; the age when toddlers discover they have their own individual wants and needs...

Your mum's comment needs to be filed in the section "useless comments" sub-section "ignorant and ill-advised and serving only to panic a loving mother".

Its fine. she's very little and will come into her own and be snatching with the best of them soon enough.

your mum was being a bit bonkers to equate anything at 18months to later on really. don't fret it.

Yes, your mum is being v v v silly! It's just how children are. When she's two it will all be different, and you won't necessarily be pleased! (but she'll still be your darling little girl)

MsDemeanor is so right.
actually come back in six months or so and update us

My DS1 was just the same until 2 and a half when a boy took a toy away and hit him with it. My sweet little flower snatched it back and thwacked him twice over the head.

On the first day at new nursery of course

My ds1 used to just stand there when children took toys off him. Or even give the toy to them. I worried about it too.

Now I am the one telling him off for taking toys away from other children and hitting.

Sure she will soom learn, for better or worse!

fantastic thank you all so much very reassuring. I guess I am just fed up with her being the rag-doll of the group

Ds1 used to be like that at 18 months, he would just give up anything so easily. I was worried he'd be bullied/get walked all over but now (at 2.8yrs) he's perfectly capable of standing up for himself. If anyone tries to snatch anything he shouts NO, holds it close and gives them a really cross look. They don't try again.

my dd was like this up until a few weeks ago. then when i went to a play area the other week another child pushed her and she pushed back, he pushed her, she oushed him. i saw but didnt get there quick enough to stop (nor did his mum we got there at the same time) but which point she had knocked him flying.
although i'm not proud she knocked him flying i am that se stood up for herself.
i did talk to her that it isnt nice to push people as i dont want her to go u[ tp someone and push them without provocation.
i wouldnt worry too much about your dd. she'll learn to stand her ground