Jack-in-the box at bed time - what's the easiest way to deal with this?

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We moved our 21mth old into a "big bed" this week and now have to deal with the constant jumping in and out of bed - the first night I must have put her back about 50 times! DH is harder than me and wants to leave her to it, but last night (4th night on big bed) it took her two hours to settle and she eventually sizzled out on the floor. Day time sleeps seem to be a battle too and I was hoping there was a kind oracle out there who could suggest the best way to deal with this!! Help me!!!

Hey, we had routine and consistency. E.g We regulary lay at the side of the child until s/he went to sleep. We did this consistently until s/he didn't need us to do it anymore

thanks glen32, ant advice is welcome. i have been laying with her for around 2 months now. i have had about 4 nights unbroken sleep in all that time.but i think i am used to it now. she only stopped waking in the night for a bottle about 8 months ago.
always something comes along to wake me up!

whatever route you guys go down to stop the behaviour carry it out for at least 30 days, this is the minimum time you can expect to see a behaviour change that will be long term, stick to routine where you can and be extremely consistent with boundries.

geln, can you come and live at my house

lizandlulu, I have spent many years with severe challenging behaviours and experienced lots but you know your kids better than anyone, if i can be of any help let me know. I can only help if you guys put in the work too, the behaviour change of a child is not just down to the child it is down to all care givers. A child learns by minicing and copying others and also by there mistakes, if the mistakes are rewarded incorrectly then this will encourage the behaviour to be repeated and before you know it it becomes an established behaviour, harder to stop than start.

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another nights unbroken sleep i could get used to that! just took a while to get her to sleep in the first place.
my problem is i am too soft with her.
i a strict in other areas, but in the middle of the night i just say 'oh coem on then'

If she is in nappies buy a gate and out that up - she can call you if she needs you - if she needs the toilet put the gate up until she is asleep and then take it down so she can go alone but make sure you put her straight back to bed afterwards.

We used a gate for about 4 days by which time the threat of the gate was enough to keep DS in his bed.

Cruel you may think but it worked and now at 3.5 he hasks to go to be and only comes downstairs or into our room if he needs something - he goes to the wee too and goes back and gets in his bed.

twinkie we was originally going to use a stairgate, but i thought it would make the bedroom into a place where she wouldnt want to be, locked in.
well she thinks that anyway so that went a bit wrong didnt it!

I'm with Glen32 here. Takes 3 weeks to break a habit. I had to do it with ds2,poured myself a glass of wine and sipped it while I kept putting him back to bed.For up to an hour and a half! Personally,the lying with child thing did not and would not work in this house. It is an individual thing.