Our 5 year old has frequent accidents. Used to be both wee and poo, just wee now.
We've tried regular prompting to go to the toilet, we've worked with an incontinence nurse who ruled out any underlying issues, we've tried a reward chart, we've tried talking to him, we've tried "soft" discipline in the form of the naughty step, removing certain toys/devices etc. We've tried to encourage sit down wee's, given him bubbles to blow on the toilet and small puzzles to do, nothing seems to be working. Sometimes he says he's going to the toilet, then he has an accident shortly after and says he lied and didn't go when he said he did. We've also tried sitting outside the bathroom to ensure he goes, to which he started refusing to go because he didn't have privacy. We've tried telling him that other kids at school might not be nice to him if they notice him having one.
Every time he has an accident at home we tell him he knows what to do, he takes his wet pants and trousers off, cleans himself up, puts fresh clothes on and brings them down to put them in the washing machine.
Recently we sat him down for a chat about it and he said he just couldn't be bothered to go, so thought it would be easier to just go in his pants instead.
At my wits end with the endless washing. He looks ashamed and says sorry every time but then does it again and it just cycles over again and again. Every time we go out we have to pack a bag full of clothes incase of accidents.
He is currently still wearing a pull up at night as we don't see the point in night training whilst he's still having accidents during the day.
Has anyone got any advice please? Everything we've tried so far just isn't working.