Other arsehole kids

[FunnyHazelPeer]

How on earth do I manage this?

Went to a party with DS4. Another child there he doesn’t know, stole a balloon off him and popped it in his face. DS4 ran over to us and burst into tears. We just gave him a hug and carried on, he ran to pick up another balloon and the same little kid picked up the balloon and run off. DS was VERY upset again, lots of tears and anger.

The other kids dad wasn’t watching his child and just chatting to other parents.

I didn’t really know what to say to DS, he was so upset but angry upset…. I understand he was playing with something and this other kid intentionally was being a pain.

As the party continued the other child was purposefully kicking other kids on the face.
He was chasing other children and they were just running off as he clearly wasn’t someone they wanted to play with, the child moaned to his dad that child X wouldn’t play with him and his dad just said “well keep chasing them”. Dad didn’t watch his kid at any point.

I regret not saying to the dad keep an eye on ur child because he’s hurting other kids.

DH has said to DS if someone does something to you like snatch a toy, you can snatch it back and say no I’m playing with it. But DS just says no that’s not a kind thing to do.

DS is starting school in September and kids like this are going to be everywhere and anywhere. I don’t know how to prepare DS for these situations, how to teach him how to manage his emotions when he comes across an arsehole.

Any advice?

It’s so hard isn’t it when the child’s parents aren’t watching, generally these parents aren’t going to give you the response you are hoping for so talking to them doesn’t help. You’ll always get situations like this, support DS is the way you are, this is real life not all kids act how we want them to so teaching them how to cope in the moment and walk away.

Yes that’s it! I was feeling bad for my son I didn’t say anything, but like you said the parent wouldn’t have been interested. Just want to make sure I’m preparing him to cope in these situations!

Yes I relate to this. My DD is 10 now but when she was little we did the following. Kept calm so she didn’t feel that meanness was the end of the world. Talked about natural consequences for the mean kid - oh dear he will find it hard to make friends if he pushes kids over etc. we stood up for her as much as possible and encouraged her to stand up for herself. It’s hard when it’s your lovely little child. But they will meet awful troubled people the whole way through life so best way is to teach them to handle it. It’s hard but it’s doable I think.

Thanks for this, it’s kind of what we done. We said wow you have so many friends who like to play with u because ur so kind. And then DC reflected that no one wanted to play with the other kid, and we asked why and he said because he wasn’t kind!

Perfect. Over time (took DD a
long time) he will work out who to avoid, and the signs that a child might be a bit out of control. And he likely won’t suffer self esteem
wise.