Advice please regarding son’s behaviour
So my son is 10 years old and his behaviour has been an issue for the last 2-3 years. I get calls from the school almost daily. Recent behaviours have been, saying and shouting out offensive things to people including about gay/lesbian people (I have no idea where this has come from) saying other offensive things, struggles to concentrate in class, disruptive, swearing, gets explosive anger and struggles to control it.
i meet with the sen teacher often, he’s under a plan with her. Last year she advised that his behaviour be assessed by a professional which it was and she highlighted a few things but signed him off.
every single day I talk to him about his behaviour, why it’s wrong etc, and try and help him control his anger, when he’s done something wrong I take away his privileges (PlayStation/ipad) this doesn’t seem to work, he seems to register why something is wrong when I talk to him about it but they he just does it again, he seems to have no impulse control or sense of danger. I don’t know why he behaves this way, we have a calm household, my other two children are completely different.
I spoke to the sen teacher about possibly getting another assessment done, she brushed it off and said he’s had one and they signed him off. Where do I go from here I’m so stressed? I have no idea if he has an underlying behavioural issue? His dad is completely against him having any assessments (we are separated) he says he doesn’t want to put a label on him but for me I feel that If there is an underlying issues it’s better to have that diagnosis sooner, especially before he starts secondary school next year.