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Autism/ADHD in young children

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LittleChilliBean · 04/06/2026 05:44

Hi all, I'm after some advice about some of my daughter's behaviours. She's a wonderful, happy child aged 4, starting school in September.

I should add that I'm going through an autism and ADHD assessment and her Dad is diagnosed as having ADHD.

I guess the advice I'm looking for is from parents who might have seen similar signs in their children and what process you followed.

Some of the things I've noticed are:

  • an obsession with novelty headbands (currently Bluey ears) to the point where she will get out of bed to put them on and fall asleep wearing them.
  • I would class it as stimming, clicking her tongue, snapping her fingers.
  • She's not able to keep still, every meal time involves her getting up to dance or jump around.
  • Her nursery providers have told me she struggles to calm down at the end of the day when others are having calm time.
  • When I give an instruction like 'can you tidy up' it involves a meltdown and she asks for me to tell her what to do first and she needs steps to follow.

I know that when you start researching symptoms of autism and and ADHD, you see it everywhere, so I'm reaching out to get an outside opinion.

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ExplodingSmittens · 04/06/2026 19:02

I would say there is a chance yes, more so because it’s so hereditary.

When Nursery have said that she struggles to calm down, what have they done so far to help her?

Being fidgety, not being able to break tasks down and therefore being overwhelmed and getting obsessed with particular things all could be ND, you’re right.

What have you done so far? Have you done this progress checker?

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