Doing a poo....but not my child!

[BeckyBendyLegs]

At the moment as I type my DS1 who is 4 1/2 has his friend over to play and his friend who is just 4 has, I suspect only by my nose and knowing he's done it before at home, soiled himself. He denies doing it and I don't want to push him on it as he is not my child and it is a bit of a sensative issue (he's been potty trained for 1 year). Any suggestions? At the moment I am just letting them play but DS1 keeps saying 'I can smell poo mummy!' I guess I should just leave them to it and tell his mum when she comes to pick him up.

When is she due to pick up?

It would be kind to change him, glove up and get stuck in.

explain kindly that it would be best for him to change before his skin gets sore and you dont mind helping at all

he may feel embarrassed

poor little chap.

If you can do it without upsetting him I'd be gently assertive, hold out your hand and say "come with me a minute X" and take himt to the bathroom to clean him up. Don't be sympathetic, just very matter of fact like you've seen it all before (which of course you have!)

Yuk - I could not let him carry on playing like that....could you call his mum for advice?

or say its time to use the toilet boys send ds in and then take next boy in "oh dear you have had an accident lets get you changed mate dont worry

try to distract your DS to minimise embarrassment

Make a big thing of "Lets go to the loo" and make sure this little chap goes, when he's at it have a look. It's only normal for kids to get carried away when they are excited.

yes, like bubbla says

If he won't let you help him get cleaned up i would get his mum to pick up now tbh. Not nice for any of you to have that going on.

Thanks guys! He was very reluctant to let me help him so I didn't push it. I wasn't worried about cleaning him up as I have two DSs and have been changing nappies / pants for 4 1/2 years now! DS1's friend is a lovely little boy but what I'd describe as a bit of a hurricane! (He comes to our house and shakes the contents as he goes from room to room!). I contacted his mum and she's taken him home. I feel bad though as she was really apologetic. It really is no big deal to me (my DS1 went through a similar phase a while ago).