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Separation Anxiety/Mum back at work - please help!

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Holly29 · 19/06/2008 16:28

My DS is 9 months tomorrow. I went back to work 2 months ago and he has coped with the transitional period very well - my nanny constantly comments that he is a happy, good natured little boy.

However, in the last few weeks (and worse in the last few days) he has become increasingly grumpy, he cries at the slightest thing and it seems that every time I come home nanny has been carrying him around all day because it's the only way to stop it happening. He does cheer up considerably when I get home. I appreciate that this must be separation anxiety but having no other children I am having real difficulty knowing what to suggest to my nanny. I feel so guilty about leaving him now. It's not teething, as we've been through that and it was totally different.

Any ideas? I am thinking of giving up work because I feel so bad about it...

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glaskham · 19/06/2008 19:00

maybe give him a blanket that you have slept with for a few nights so it smells of you?... may not be the right sort of thing but sure someone else will come along and give advice.

bumbling · 19/06/2008 19:42

Poor you, how upsetting for you both. Blanket or cuddly toy v good idea I think. Howq long has he been crying for? Could it be something else, poorly tummy, ear ache etc, can all be hard to spot if it's not related to suitty tummy etc. Not sure how you feel about meds, but could you try Calpol just before you hand him over and see if it works. Could try asking her to be more specific about when he cries. Is he hungry, could be agrowth spurt? Is he tired, how's he sleeping at night? Where is he, could he be bored or with other kids or noisy environment he doesn't like? Good thing your nanny's telling you though, at least it gives you a chance to work on it. Be far worse if she wasn't saying a thing and yo had no idea.

Holly29 · 22/06/2008 14:23

That's so true, bumbling.

I took the day off on Friday because nanny wasn't well and he was an absolute star with me! Didn't cry at all and I really made an effort not to pick him up. Think I just need to be very supportive of nanny and maybe try to keep a detailed log of when it happens!

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bumbling · 24/06/2008 18:03

HOpe things are getting bit better for you Hooly29. Any improvement?

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