Hi…hoping for some advice to help support my DD9. She is such a lovely girl…so eager to please and is so helpful and caring. She has a huge sense of fairness and always wants to do the right thing. She gets upset when others don’t play fair and verbalises this…it can come off a bit like she is telling her friends off. In school she gets very apprehensive if she can’t follow an instruction to the letter or if she gets low marks she gets very upset with herself. She can become withdrawn and isolate herself a bit when she feels uncomfortable with a situation. Another example is recently she was taking part in an event - the compere asked parents to pick up the children after the event at a certain place when I’d arranged a different place to meet her…well, she got upset and started crying and didn’t want to do the event any more because she was worried I wouldn’t be able to pick her up her up.
I worry that she worries so much! We are not an overly strict household. We rarely have to tell her or her sister off (to be fair her sister gets told off more but even then that’s rare). When she does get told off, she is inconsolable and full of contrition. Honestly I’m sure you must think her dad and I are super strict, but we are not at all. There is lots of fun and laughter in our home and neither of us are sticklers on anything except teeth brushing.
Can anyone help? I feel like she would enjoy like more if she stopped worrying but I’ve no idea how to help her.