I hate my baby's cry

[Rubbleonthedouble2]

I know I sound like a complete bitch which is why I've name changed.

I have a 3 year old and a 10 month old.

In recent months the baby has developed this piercing shrieking screaming cry the just absolutely cuts through me. I feel triggered and angry and I don't want to be near him.

I'm also very tired because he still wakes up 3 times per night as a baseline.

I didn't feel this way about my first but then he didn't sound like this either.

I feel so lost. How do I get a grip?

You’re not a bitch don’t worry. I had similar with DS, he had a weird cry. Initially I freaked, spoke to the doctor who said it’s fine he just sounds like that, then spoke to my mum who told me my middle brother had an extremely annoying cry and I felt much better. Good news is - he won’t be doing it forever. I know that doesn’t sound like much but honestly when my kids were babies and crying a lot I just kept that in the front of my mind.

My primary concern would be you - how are you feeling in yourself? Do you have any sings of PND?

I do agree with Green, it’s hard when you’re going through it but it is usually only for a short time

You can check that the shrieking is just part of normal speech and language development if you want to by doing this simple progress checker.

And it’s only a short time till you can do some gentle night weaning. You can try The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley now. We had better nights after trying that book.

If you’re feeling angry though, it could be a sign of Post Natal Illness. Have you spoken to your HV or the Pandas Foundation?