has anyone had a very rowdy, rude full on child who changed into a withdrawn quiet type

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almost overnight?

This happened to DSD and I am v worried that something may come out in later life. The change happened at around 10yrs - she just whacked the emotional breaks on and seems fine on the surface but never opens up to any emotion. Maybe it is when she is visiting us but I wonder if anyone can advise that it will have implications for her later to be so clammed up....

overnight is unusual - did anything happen?

I don't know - It was like one visit she turned up and she was silent. Maybe hormones kicking in. She did have some troubles at home, a new stepdad to live with that kind of thing.

has she come into contact with anyone whou could have hurt her emotionally? physically? could she be facing her first crush/rejection?

i was never rude as a child but i was very loud and extroverted...then i met my first crush and i was too shy to tell him i liked him...then i got sad and quiet because i thought if he didn't notice me nothing mattered anymore. i was 8ish.

When will you see her again? She might have reverted back to her usual self by then. Could she have been unwell?

no she has been like this for 2 years now so it was almost part of her maturity process. That is what I find so weird.

Yes you are right ez it amy just be teenage stuff. I just wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation bottling their feelings up so much....

not a close relationship with me at all but v civil and pleasant. She was close to her Dad though and she stopped opening up to him completely. She just went from a rude (bit obnoxious sorry but I know normal for an 8yo) crazy funny whacky little girl to this blank canvas

from age 7

thinking it over she has been like this for about 3 years now

is she acting the same at home with her mother?

i don't know ez I suspect so....
I will discuss furtehr with dh - he is amazed at her quietness now...

maybe you guys could watch a girly/chick flick/teenager movie? you could talk about your school yard crushes or something and see if she has anything to say. my baby sister always fell for stuff like this.

I will thanks again guys x