Toilet issues with 5 year old

[kej75]

Advice please,

My Daughter(who is 5) has taken an adversion to going to the toilet. She has always been quite bad with going to the toilet even for a wee, but since she had a stomach upset she has just not wanted to go for a poo, and leaves it so long its hurting her. She has got really bad this weekend and won't wven go for a wee, she has now just wet herself, but has still not gone for a wee.

I am trying the sticker chart for going at least 4 times a day - not worked, and we are also trying to get her to drink more to make her need the toilet more, but also not working she is just not drinking much.

She is still in nappies at night, which I am not that bothered about, but think that it has a lot to do with her not going during the day.

Really don't know what to do - we've tried the not to be bothered tack, the get angry, sticker charts. Just don't know what to do.

Any advice would be great

Thanks

Kate

I wonder if the reason she does not want to go for a wee is if she has a urinary infection it is hurting.

Hi Kate, Your post interested me quite a bit as I have a 5yo daughter who seems to be in the same situation as your 5yo was. Just wondering how you got on with the problem and how you got it sorted. We have been trying to train my 5yo for almost 3 years. We know she has a problem with controlling her bladder so small wee accidents are not a big deal. Getting her to go on a regular basis however is. She just wont go and occasionally will just stand there and soak her pants. I tell her to stop and then send her to the toilet - which she will do. But if I asked her 10 mins earlier to go - she would have refused. We too have tried rewards - big rewards too - even asking her what it will take to get her to go to the toilet. Her response - nothing. Whatever we have tried is always a short term solution. We have regular poos in the pants - pretty much every day. I have been to every specialist you can possibly think of and still no one has an answer for me. I am simply told it is normal up until a child is 5. Well now she's 5, where do we go from here? Still no one is offering any suggestions. She was meant to start school this year but we made the decision to hold her back because of this problem. I still see no light at the end of the tunnel and with school starting in 7 months, I'm really frightened of what the re-percussions will be when other kids notice her wetting and soiling. Basically - Im desperate and if you can give me some tips on what worked for you - Im all ears. Thanks very much, Cheers, High Maintenance Mum. :)