Siblings physically fighting.

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They wind each other up and end up hitting, slapping, scratching. It’s a few times a week and I’m so fed up. They seem to hate each other. The youngest (10) struggles with adhd and constantly wants to be near the older one (13). Eldest within seconds attacks her. Youngest sometimes fights back. What can I do??? Eldest is constantly saying that she has to hit her sister as I don’t do anything about it. But she literally throws the last punch. Tonight they both lost phones/iPads and went to bed early but eldest still thinks it’s unfair. Youngest is desperate for a reaction all the time.

does the youngest take any meds? Does she talks to child psychologist or other child professional?

No

@pinkyponkyplinkdo you think the youngest is Dopamine seeking? I gave two wirh ADHD and it’s definitely a thing.

Absolutely no judgement from me but is there a reason that she’s not on Medication for ADHD?

And does she know what helps her to regulate and how to build Dopamine levels naturally?

I think it possibly is dopamine seeking. She hasn’t been diagnosed with adhd. I probably shouldn’t say she has it if she hasn’t been diagnosed but im confident she does have it. Haven’t even started any assessment as im not even sure it would help. I didn’t think most children went on medication for adhd. Do yours have medication?

Yes, you probably shouldn’t say she has it if the assessment process hasn’t even been started yet

If you think has ADHD, how are you helping her to regulate now?

I have two with ADHD and have it myself. The two DC do both take medication and I’m in the process of getting some prescribed. My diagnosis was later than the DCs.

Sorry. I work with children and I’m pretty sure it is. Masks at school and a whole roller coaster of emotions at home. Constantly on the go.
i don’t know any children who have been diagnosed who are on medication. I haven’t pushed for a diagnosis as I don’t think anything would change. I feel if I pay for an assessment it will come back as she has it and change what?
I try and help her regulate her emotions at home eg distraction, comfort, cuddles, addressing her feelings and recognising strategies she can use to over come eg breathing, movement breaks etc

I don’t think that paying for an assessment automatically means diagnosis? My DH was assessed under the “right to choose” scheme and didn’t receive a diagnosis

Does she have an ECHP @pinkyponkyplink?