Hi all. Looking for any tips with coping with my 5 year old son’s aggressive behaviour in the moment. He gets very angry, throws things, hits and kicks me. (Seems to be limited to only me at the moment for hitting, but throwing is common with other caregivers)
Last few days he’s stabbing me with a fork and trying to throw cups/glasses and even pick up the bin. All seems to be when I say no or set a boundary/expectation. Will list a few things I do for behaviour in general, but really struggling with how to deal with this in the moment.
- I try to validate feelings at the time. I say it’s okay to be angry but not okay to throw/hit etc
- I allow natural consequences eg break the toy, toy doesn’t get replaced
- I try to be firm in the moment but don’t shout
- I try to talk about behaviour without shaming at a later time when he is calm
- We talk about what he thinks is good behaviour and not good behaviour
- I recently read a book which said about making a joint list to correct behaviour in future, but he can’t fully grasp this right now.
I don’t want to do any kind of punishment eg time out, removal of privileges etc.
Any advice welcome
tysm