5 Year Old BoyS

[Ceiron]

Hi anyone out there who can give me some advise help anything to make our lives a little easier!!!!.
My nearly 5 year old son is giving us such a hard time. His moods swing from angey to sad to "lifes not fair" to "I am not as good as Dad or a friend in say playing cricket or swimming" to sulking etc. Everyday when I leave for work he starts crying before I have even left then uses stalling tactics to get me to stay longer.

We did move last year and he had alot to contend with ie new maid/house/school/town and then a new sister but I really thought it would be settled by now.

Any way anyone got some advise

5 year old little boys are testosterone charged!! It is a poven fact that at this age there is a surge of male hormones and that means everything they do has to be accompanied by noise, agression, violence and physical play! I don't mean it in a really bad way, but that is probably how it seems to you at the time!

I look after a 4.8 year old, I know how difficult it is to channel all that energy. I just keep really reinforcing the good behaviour and trying to ignore the bad or unwanted behaviour.

I think your son is normal!!

hi thanks for that my hubby thinks he needs a shrink as he can't cope with the rejection especially the sulking - it is really hard working 07h00-18-00 everyday I know they are at a age when mum is really important in their lives

Hi Ceiron,

I have a 5 year old girl who sounds very similar, the only thing is, she jumps from placid behaviour to absolute rages! Very scary and upsetting sometimes.

She got a new sister at three and we did a big move away from everything she knew when she was 3 and 1/2. I overcompensated I'm afraid and was very lenient on her with the new sister and big move etc feeling guilty, however, I don't know if I've added to her behaviour problems by doing this or if this is just a 5 year old thing.

I am trying 'no emotion' treatment, (don't react to anything when they're having a tanty and stick to your no's and be firm with the stalling tactics)

In 'treating' my daughter's behaviour issues, this and a reward/star chart has been the only thing which seems to be helping. By me not getting worked up over things as well and being VERY CONSISTENT with my no's etc we still have our moments, but in the last week, the change in her behaviour has been nothing short of amazing.

Have been really busy thanks Bunza we try this been firm (me more then Dad) but then we hit the sulks which drive me mad. The worst is this "sad sorrowful face" he puts on everyday when things are not quite what he expects. The more I ignore the worse it gets so its not a win-win situation.

Hubby jokingly says they are my kids so emotional etc and they can't leave me alone - I know they miss me during the day as my baby now won't let me out of her sight at night. Any way we will keep trying thank goodness its back to school next week hopefully back to normality