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Struggling to cope.

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Toddlerhatesme · 10/02/2026 20:29

I feel like my 2 year old hates me. It never used to be like this and I used to read threads like this and I didn't get it. But the last couple of months, she honestly can't stand me.

It's like she's two different children. One that everyone else sees and one when it's just me, which makes it harder because nobody believes me when I tell them what it's like when it's just me and her. I've started videoing the tantrums just to prove I'm not going mad. I wouldn't even call them tantrums. She gets hysterical, throws things, hits me, pushes me away. Won't let me anywhere near her.

My husband works late a lot but when he's home she's an angel. The odd occasion he puts her to bed she happily walks into the bedroom holding his hand, gives him a cuddle and says goodnight.

Every other night when I try and put her to bed it's world war 3. Screaming, hitting me, throwing things at me. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I thought I was a good mum.

But it is me that's the problem because she's not like this with anyone else. Even when she's not having a tantrum. When we are with our parents or other family she cuddles everyone and smiles and laughs constantly, but she doesn't want to be anywhere near me. I feel like everyone is noticing it.

I struggled to conceive, she was the best thing that ever happened to me and I love her so much. But I feel like she'd be happier if I wasn't here.

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BinNightTonight · 15/02/2026 22:09

Oh bless you, i am sorry. You sound like a lovely mum and definitely not like someone who is doing anytning wrong. You say your husband works late so youre her primary caregiver, she feels safe and comfortable with you so she is pushing the boundaries, exploring. How have things been since your post? She would definitely not be happier without you there x

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