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3.5 asking for others names

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MerryLou · 06/02/2026 13:29

My 3.5 year old goes to a football class and has been since he was 2. He loved it at first but then we moved him to a new location of class and since, he's not settled. We've carried on going thinking he needs to get used to his surroundings and the other children but its been a while now and he's not settling. He starts well but as soon as other children come near him, he cries and sits at the side with me. Asking if he wants to go to football he says yes but 2 weeks ago, afterwards he said he doesn't want to go again. We should be going tomorrow. This morning he said he would join in if he knew the other children's names. I was all for leaving the class because I felt it was having a more detrimental affect but now he's said that, I'm not sure to ask the coaches to spend some time with a name game or just everybody introduce themselves to each other and see how he reacts. I don't want to stop him going if he does want to go...its hard knowing if what he's saying is what he truelly means.

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SleafordSods · 07/02/2026 07:58

Does he usually have problems with transitions @MerryLou? How is he at Nursery or Preschool? Do they have any concerns?

I would though stop the football. It doesn’t sound as though he’s enjoying it any longer.

MerryLou · 07/02/2026 08:49

Thank you @SleafordSods

He's been great at nursery and now preschool. He's always transitioned to the next room well and we've had no resistance from him going. He loves it. Preschool haven't mentioned anything to me. He's made some great little friends which he seems to stick to. It's outside of preschool where we see shyness and reluctance to mix with others. Saying that, last night we were out for dinner and played well with two brand new children he'd just met there that night.

Thanks about the football. We will stop that. He showed a lot of promise but he can pick it up again at school if he wants to.

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SleafordSods · 07/02/2026 13:13

Definitely lots of time to pick up hobbies they will enjoy. At this age they’ll gain lots by playing catch, running and climbing. These are skills that are useful in most sports.

DD started off well in Ballet and then started not wanting to go. She asked to go to Martial Arts instead and absolutely loved it.

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