My 5 YO has ASD, PDA.
he has no delays in speech or communication.
there are some weeks, where his behaviour is absolutely unbearable. Hitting him is absolutely not acceptable and I am very ashamed. When I say unbearable, he calls me names, talks back and will tell us to ‘fucking shut up’ every time we speak, repeatedly target his little brother and be violent toward him. He will refuse everything, all while hysterically laughing in my face, he will wake at 3am, eyes open and first words ‘i want to kill my brother’ or ‘i hate you im going to punch you’ and then at night, he will get out his bed repeatedly just to laugh at us and call us names.
if you ask him to stop doing something, or you become upset he will push harder. If you take something off him, he will become violent and smash everything up.
the weeks he is like this, i feel like its not my child its someone else and sadly I feel like i absolutely despise him and being around him. Its a massive part of him however, and sometimes its just one week with a few weeks break and others its 2 months.
unable to find triggers for why it works like this.
its patience testing to an absolutely insane level, every bad behaviour that is a parents nightmare, amplified.
if i leave him to ‘calm down’ I have to take my other child, then they dont want to go back in there, then they have a meltdown and im trying to not have anybody sleep with me because they get excited about it and dont sleep, and less sleep means im more angry!
fucking HATE my life