Hi all,
I am a first time mum of a 28 month old boy.
2 days ago he was climbing the kids bookshelf the ones which have rails that hold the kallax boxes and on the top there are slings for books. He usually takes all booms out anf the boxes out and climbs them.
I was there feeding him and he was climbing it and suddenly slipped and his head fell back and hit the glass tv stand you know old black and silver council house ones. The bookshelf fell on top of him while the head hit back on the TV stand. I was so distraught.
He immediately started to cry and immediate swelling on head. Wouldn't allow ice pack but we tried what we could. Took him a and e. He was running around the corridors etc and screaming etc. He was active. They saw him and discharged him by giving a leaflet on what to look out for like vomiting, loss of consciousness, change in behaviour etc.
Yesterday he was himself, he was playing around eating and drinking all normally.
Today in morning I gave porridge then he wanted to sleep a bit more so he did. When he woke up after a bit I gave oranges. An hour or so later he started whining and holding his tummy. He can't talk yet so I assumed it's tummy pain and held him to rock him. Suddenly he started vomiting. I panicked so much. And then again 2 times after he vomited. I rang nhs 111 and they said go urgent care centre.
I am so so worried thinking what if this is to do with the head injury thag happened 2 nights ago?
Also, my son usually does these stiffening and jerky movements which I have already got him seen by GP and also I mentioned these in his 2 year old review and because he scored low he was also referred for an autism referral and speech and language. I have been really concerned about certain specific behaviours such as gritting teeth sometimes, jerking movements etc. I'm not concerned about speech as such because of my other concerns.
At 17 months I got a GP to refer him to paediatrics and they just saw him and said a community nurse will contact etc and it's been 10 months haven't heard anything so I'm grateful for the health visitor putting in referral for autism. I have had Post Natal depression following traumatic fast birth and also I believe a manual removal of placenta was conducted on me while they only gave me gas and air, I had no epidural given to me etc and so it caused me a lot of trauma. However it got brushed under the carpet in my birth debrief as they just said that couldn't have happened. I also am in a toxic marriage, I have been abused etc and I am making my plans to leave. My parents home has their own issues so I try avoid going there too. My son has been in situations where there had been arguments too and she me cry a few times despite me trying my absolute best not to break in front of him.
So baring in mind my worries about head injury and ongoing concerns about autism, the nurse during triage goes to me 'has he got any medical conditions...like autism?' I said he is being assessed for it but it stung my heart.
I was told to take my son to children's department as they don't know what the vomiting was caused by, whether it's the head injury or tummy bug. The doctor who was checking him while I was trying to do his urine sample said 'don't worry mum if he won't allow urine sample' and so I was trying to give my son his show to watch on mobile so I can hear Dr. At that point he flipped the phone over which he does many times anyway and just sat there during abrupt movements which I always see. Then she goes 'do you feel any change in his behaviour? 'I said no she goes 'hmm he looks irritable to me'. I said 'he is usually like this even before the head injury' And then she looks at him and goes 'hmm he has a little but of autism features' and I go 'do you think so?' She goes 'hmm yeah'
I cannot tell you how much sadness and grief this has caused me today. Its something that I've quietly been trying to accept by reading more about it, educating myself etc although I do know about it as I was a TA in school and was working 1: But hearing it being insinuated broke my heart.
Will the head injury and the loud argumentative environments cause him to have autism? I know I sound daft as I know how autism works but I don't even think I trust myself in anything now I'm so distraught.
I just need a hand hold please.